To: Qutab
Break up is a sad loss. It shatters lives. But is breaking-up always bad? No. If the circumstances before the break up were intolerable, then the break up may actually be good for the person. It is better to break up with an abusive/useless partner - than to continue living with the torture. Of course, you will still have trouble coping with the loss. But it is time to move on. Plz read these break up quotes to help you find your feet...
Grant Gudmundson
Love is unconditional, relationships are not.
Anonymous
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
Victoria Holt
Never regret... If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience.
Robert Frost
Families break up when people take hints you don't intend and miss hints you do intend.
Nicole Kidman
I refuse to let what happened to me make me bitter. I still completely believe in love and I'm open to anything that will happen to me.
Usher
Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life. If you're with an individual who isn't moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain't going to work.
Alexander Graham Bell
When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.
Rita Mero
I have no regrets in my life. I think that everything happens to you for a reason. The hard times that you go through build character, making you a much stronger person.
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Ma'am,
The foregoing was just to strengthen u up. There's no denying that whatever we say here would mitigate your grief, solitude & troubles. However, it's time to be practical...
-Both of u [especially u] have your Canadian PR Visas, right?
-U r well qualified, thus r street smart as well, right?
-Probably u r currently employed too, right?
Now read carefully...
At this juncture it'd not be wise for u to rake-up a legal issue. And neither take any recourse with CIC. 'Coz, in such a situation your own PR Visa would be at stake. And to be practical - your moving over to Canada would be ideally wise any day, than continuing at your homeland. Probably that was in your mind/s too, when u chose to apply, wasn't it?
Besides, a judicial recourse would be both - time consuming, as well as financially strainful. U'd better use that resource towards moving forward - in life & attain a gainful position hereon. Moreover, the amount of public whistle blowing involved - would sure make u very uncomfortable, personally. Thus, it's better avoided.
Therefore, any of the 2 actions could potentially take your Visa Away, which would put a spoke to your future; besides u may yet not be able to bring him back, or get his cancelled. As he's landed, he'd find any & many ways to thwart any deportation order. Thus, your "revenge" might be lost in the red tape jargon.
Canada, among many other things is an utopia for single ladies. The opportunities r galore. Safety & comfort for u would be second to none. And believe me, once u r here, the law would ensure that your Ex bears all your expenses... They beat the s-h-i-t out of abandoning/derelict spouses, rest assured.
So, muster all your resources & make it to this beautiful country. Do not divulge anything to anyone. Once landed, settle down, establish yourself (I know it's easier said than done) & in a couple of months file a legal case against the Ex, as if the matter had gone sore here.
This way u'd get to remain/retain your PR & fetch social services to assist u as well. Besides, reside in one of the world's most fab nations.
Hope that made sense...
What do u say?
Qorax
