Please, sponsors, take responsibility for the choice YOU made.

[annabruce]

I have been seeing quite a few threads recently from disgruntled sponsors who are naturally upset that their relationship has gone bad. Without exception, they are seeking a way to retalliate by removing their spouse/former spouse's PR.

Though there are clearly cases where fraud has occured, I would suggest that in most cases the relationship has simply failed. You need to remember that you have NOT done your former spouse some grand favour by bringing them to Canada. You had your own selfish motive as well. You wanted to make your life here with your spouse in Canada.

Relationships go bad. People lie. People cheat. All people do this whether or not they are immigrants. This is human nature. All humans not just immigrants!

I'm sorry if your relationship has gone bad. Its sad, but its also a part of life. Take responsibility for your part in this. Take responsibility for your role as a sponsor.

I say this as sponsor myself who has had both very good and very difficult periods with my wife over the period of time I have known her.

 

[cher43]

I am so glad you posted this when you said its doesn't matter if you are immigrant people cheat lie and steal and kill its all the world not just immigrants . we take this chance to bring our spouse here not all marriages work out i could meet someone from my town and it might not work out

 

[waiting110]

Good thread .. In the past weeks we have seen a lot of these threads which is just sad!

 

[Tipha]

Im not a sponsor, i agree with it though. Even as sponsored applicant i tried to make sure, my husband is who he really is, nothing worse than to discover a different person later on than the one you believed knowing well enough. Of course you never have a guarantee. But mainly both are responsible for their choice! That has nothing to do with immigration. Even people living in the same town, getting married and the other cheated or lied just to gain a house or/and money after divorce for example, is the same way sad. Everywhere a liar gets some kind of "advantage" out of something, is awful, but it happens anywhere, not just in relationships and especially not just in immigration cases. Its always good to be critical, its often hard to make the right choices, but always your own responsibility in the end and next time you maybe know how to handle it in a better way.
And just to mention this as well regarding relationships and choices....I see enough women/men that complain all the time about getting the "wrong guy/woman" >< but they sometimes dont realize they are choosing them!!! Theres often complicated (psychological) reasons behind it. Its on one hand sad and on the other it makes you angry they always go for a "poor" choice cause they dont know it better, still it is their choice or responsibility, they are grown ups and they need to notice something is not right here and that they maybe need some help. Thats of course for those that have a pattern there of getting the wrong partner, everyone makes a "poor" choice at least once in their life.
Last but not least a german saying lol " therefor check, whats binding/bonding forever" (hope i translated it somewhat understandable )