Hi, I am the wife of the husband here. I was on assistance because I was laid off (as a security guard) and rejected from EI, although I petitioned many times. I now have a secure full-time job, so that is no longer a concern according to the lawyer. I am a Canadian citizen since birth & we were married in Toronto, in January 2010.
We met in person last January after having been friends online for some time. He came to live with me after the incident with my previous live in boyfriend, so I would feel safe. I had never met anyone so kind & sweet, gentle & funny. It was a difficult time & we supported one another. We moved to another apartment FAR away from where the trouble had been & are very happy now. I could not imagine my life without him! :'(
Last year before I met my husband, I was assaulted & nearly killed (I received a concussion and facial bruising) by my live in boyfriend. I claimed self defense, yet could not afford a trial. Therefore, We were both charged and no conviction was made. However, it is NOT a finding of "guilty" or anything like that.
***side note*** Before all this nonsense, I was a student at the University of Toronto with a double major, and a hardworking security guard with no criminal record to speak of. It was due to my regular mandatory attendance to the PARS program, that I lost my job as a guard. (They require a fully open/available schedule).
I had to attend a PARS program & successfully completed this diversion program; it was really more of a victim response & counseling for women who are on the receiving end of domestic abuse. There is only one program for Women, and it took nearly a year to get into. There are dozens of programs for abusive men, they are even specialized in a multitude of languages; goes to show you just who the real abusers are.
**side note***The police and courts have decided that in these cases of domestic violence (which happen behind closed doors, with one's word against the other) that both parties should be charged regardless so that the courts may deal with it and decide from there. Unfortunately this causes the victims of these violent offenses to be victimized further by the justice system. It was hell, no one should ever have to face this, truly, I am lucky to be alive.
So, After this diversion program, a peace bond of 6 months to a year has been proposed. I no longer have a criminal record, however there is still a ROA: "Record of Arrest" which I can apply to have destroyed after waiting 6 months. I have asked the judge to consider striking the peace bond from the record all together, I will find this out as of April 28th.
The immigration lawyer is recommending we pay her $500 to
write a letter stating I require the peace bond struck as it jeopardizes the possibility of immigration for my partner. Without this letter, she says the peace bond will not be struck. She also claims she can have my Record of Arrest destroyed before the 6 month waiting period. For this service we would have to
pay her even more, on top of her previous fees which are considerable.
All this and we may not even be approved?