Taycaoco said:
The interview of my wife took place this morning. I think it went wrong. They said that my wedding was held too soon after I met my wife (4 months after our first phone conversation).
They also asked why my mother did not come to our wedding. The reason is simple, she's the manager of a store and no one could replace her during the busy holiday season. But my father and my grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. were present.
They also said that I have not visited my wife often enough. *censored word*! Would they pay all my bills and the plane ticket and I would stay in Vietnam six months per year!
After the interview, they just said that my wife will receive a letter in 6 weeks. That's it.
That does not bode well...
I've been married for almost 3 years now. How many years do I have to wait again? If our request is denied, I will go to appeal. We are wasting our best years of our lives. It's so unfair!
I'm very sorry your wife's interview seemingly didn't go well, but you also have to remember, the visa officer does not know you or your spouse, or your relationship history, what you did, etc, so it is you and your wife's job to convince them your marriage is genuine. In your case, I find that you do have quite a number of red flags:
-You proposed to her 1 month after first contact, and she accepted, without even meeting her in person yet. Proposal might be considered genuine, had she refused you and asked to meet you first before deciding
-You were not present during your engagement ceremony, which could make it seem you guys rushed it so that you could skip right to the wedding. Engagement ceremony might be considered genuine had you waited to do it when you came to Vietnam first.
-Your mom did not come to your wedding. You might say that because she's a manager that she is irreplaceable and has to stay to run her business. However, the VO might see that because she is a manager, she has the authority to decide when she can go on vacation, and in the case of her son getting married, which is a very important occasion for a mother, she should've had no problem taking the time off to go to your wedding.
-You didn't visit her enough times since the wedding (only one time over 2 years). I know on one of your posts you said, " Would they pay all my bills and the plane ticket and I would stay in Vietnam six months per year!". I don't think that's really a valid excuse for the VO, because if you really loved your wife, you would do everything to go see her as much as you can, maybe at least once a year is enough, even if it means working 2 jobs, for example. When I visited my fiance the past couple times, I already had a mortgage on a house, had to save up lots of $ for the wedding, gold jewellry, plane ticket, etc, I decided to work 2 jobs, for 8 straight months to save up for that. It's not like the VO is asking you to visit her every 2 months, you can definitely save up for at least once a year trip.
Personally, I think you should've waited to meet her in Vietnam first, it's very difficult to determine if a woman is the right life partner for you without seeing her in person, seeing what she is like, her mannerisms, how she behaves, etc. She can act differently to you over the phone than in person. I think had you waited to propose to her in Vietnam, have the engagement ceremony there (while you are in VN), and then set the wedding date for the next year, and then get married on your 2nd trip to Vietnam, then your application could've gone much more smoothly. You might have saved about a year by rushing the wedding, but now, because of the red flags, you will have to wait about 2+ years more, and it could even be a refusal in the end. It wasn't a good trade off, in my opinion.
You also mentioned:
"An appeal means that I have to wait 3 more years. That's insane. These *CENSORED WORD* have the power to destroy so many lives. Canada sponsoring laws are so stupids. They need immigrants to pay the pension benefits of their retired citizens. So any wedding should be accepted as long as the people are under 30. Because people under 30 will work until 67 years old. Genuine wedding or not, we don't care. They will work more than 30 years and pay taxes.
But more frustrating is that my marriage is genuine! Yes, I wed her only after 4 months, so what? Some people fall in love at the first sight and are still happily married after 60 years. And others divorce after 50 years together and a courtship of many years."
Yes its true some genuine marriages end up being turned down, but that's why it's our jobs as the sponsors to convince the VO otherwise. You have to admit, if you were in the VO's shoes, and looked at your own case, you'd be a little suspicious too no? Have you also considered that maybe your wife herself did poorly on the interview? Maybe she took too long to answer the questions, gave contradictory responses to what is on the application, etc. My best bet is that when the VO asked her, why did she accept your proposal so soon, she responded "Love is blind, I just had a good feeling about him, even I not met him before", and the VO was shaking his head and not buying it.
I'm not trying to be mean, because I too have a fiance I will marry this December, from vietnam, and I always feel bad whenever Vietnam applications get turned down. But I'm just trying to show you what the VO sees. I've read A LOT of Vietnamese cases on the canlii.org website, and all the refusal ones say the same things: quick proposal/marriage, either parent not present at wedding, not enough visits to applicant, wedding did not include street procession, or praying in front of grandparents' portraits, exchanging of gifts, etc. The Singapore VO usually encounters these things on cases they refuse.
I don't agree with you that any wedding should be accepted as long as the people are under 30. I, as a tax paying Canadian citizen, do not want someone to immigrate here by misrepresentation or fraud, regardless of age. If we keep letting in people immigrate here in an unlimited fashoin, just because they are married to a Canadian and under 30, we'd have way too many immigrants here, and I don't want to get into all the social consequences of that.
I don't care if they work and pay taxes, I'd rather have a real, genuine immigrant come here and pay taxes, than one who came here by marriage fraud and pays taxes. Because you know, the reason Singapore VO has such a long processing time, is because so many Vietnamese citizens commit marriage fraud, and that's a sad fact, because the #1 source of applications from Singapore VO, is Vietnamese family sponsorship. And as you can see, the Singapore VO has a very low visa issuance rate, only 73%. It's because of men/women who try to come here fraudulently, that real genuine spouses have to wait so long (26 month processing time). And because of that, I don't agree with you, that any one should be able to come here if they can pay taxes. I ONLY want genuine immigrants to come here.
