ON THE LIGHTER SIDE: Paranoia during the "wait"

[shronak]

Wow, that is a great thread!!!
I think I was freaking out on the entire process.
Filling the forms and gathering the documents was horrible, I asked my hubby to fill the forms and showed him exactly what needed to be filled out. it took about 2 weeks and then he tells me he finished, and he only filled the first one, so had to sit with him and make sure he did every thing. I think that before I send it I went through the forms and documents 3 times to make sure everything was in there.

And then after we submitted the application, and we got AOR from VO, we got an email requesting the passport to be send to them within 60 days, and please don't make any travel plans. This was about 40 days before we have a planed vacation already booked and payed for ??? I almost got a heart attack. We send the passport and prayed that it would get back in time. We got the passport back after 2 weeks with the COPR 8) .
Sharona

 

[frankinto]

I began to realise that, we are in this situation: We did our best. The agent's will look at it in their way, we cannot control that. I think for some people, like me, the fact that we do not control something so important in our lives, is what makes us afraid.

But we can control how we feel about it: So I plan to get involved more in my daily life, living the present moment! I think exercise and meditation will help. I will also try to fullfill my week with activities (not being able to work is hard for many of us). Instead worrying everyday next year (how long I think the process usually takes), I will do my best to live and appreciate what I was given, the joy of now instead of when.

Very well said, Squirrel. While we are waiting, life goes on and has to be enjoyed as much as possible. If I hadn't done that in the past 7 years, I would have gone bonkers!

 

[Iay]

Very well said, Squirrel. While we are waiting, life goes on and has to be enjoyed as much as possible. If I hadn't done that in the past 7 years, I would have gone bonkers!

So true. I even wanted to go triple job just to get myself occupied, but good thing I didn't, I would have saved myself from paranoia but killed it by too much stress.. Anyway, as time pass i guess the paranoia level is getting lower, until you hear or read something that will make you realize something about your application. But yea, as said above, we cannot control how CIC views our application all we can do is trust and pray that everything will be alright.

Sidenote: after i submitted our app, ive been worrying too much that my parents started to worry about me too. My dad would always remind me not to worry as long as i know i did my part very well, now it's time to relax and enjoy the ride.

 

[Iay]

Our paranoia is just the process of getting the application to CPC-M. We should never have sent it "tracked" as we are spending huge amounts of the day seeing how far it's got. It was posted a week ago and it's still not marked as "Delivered" although we can see it trundling around Mississauga from Canada Post facility to facility.

This is seriously scary stuff as we keep asking what hasn't it been delivered yet??

If we had decided to send it cheaply, untracked instead of very expensive, tracked, we wouldn't be worrying nearly so much.

Z.

Ohh you're totally not alone!! I've even made a thread before to get people's idea about how to interpret my package's tracking. Canada post made me panic for like 3 days.. Literally calling the call center 3 times a day and two of it 10 minutes after the other. The reason, agents have been giving me different answers so it made me worry more coz they don't know where my package is, and they don't know what they're talking about..

I'm happy that's totally done coz I already got my AOR.
Best luck on your application too.

 

[Iay]

I'm paranoid that the email we received from the visa office informing us that they requested an extension on my husband's medical was sent to us in error!!!!! I check my emails constantly to make sure we don't get an "Oops, we sent this email to you by mistake".

LOL. I can see myself doing that too. Very funny indeed!

 

[skas13]

I love this thread, I especially love how everyone thinks that you automatically become a Canadian just because you marry one. People ask me constantly, why isn't your husband with you in Canada? Um, there is a process people! And what a process it is!

I was doing fine in the paranoia department until i came on this site for some answers and came across a posting about organizing your application and that she had 400 pages. This poster is awesome, she did a great job, but it just made me super aware of the thinness of my application (114 pages). Granted my husband and I lived together for 4 years and had next to no emails or IM's or skype chats. Only when I visited my parents. I was freaking, I started questioning everything. Then I realized that our relationship is genuine and I have to be confident in our application. And that the biggest proof of our relationship is our two wonderful children, and that we have been living together for 4 years in India. So I focused on showing that proof. Lots of family pictures and me with my in-laws and children and stuff like that.

I have been trying to be positive, though the waiting is the hardest part. Checking my phone like a mad woman too for emails is making me a little OCD.

Anyway, this kind of camaraderie is nice, we all have a common goal and it it's nice to all get to "be there" for each other! Good luck to everyone.

Just waiting for my AOR now..... and that s if they send one..I heard that some get an AOR and some don't. LOL. So inconsistent!

 

[maplegal86]

Let me tell you about paranoia.

I am inclined to that. My father, who is a very sucessfull entrepeneur, has always been a pessimist. He had to take risks to accomplish the things he did in life, but he didn't like to take risks. I remember myself saying sometimes to him: father you worry too much, that is never going to happen etc.

So last night my wife was sleeping and I woke up and I was in panic! Thinking I had written something that could be interpreted the wrong way, imagining things that I did / Didn't / Should / Shouln't have put in my application etc. Then my mother tells me how my father was always like this, and have made it through.

I began to realise that, we are in this situation: We did our best. The agent's will look at it in their way, we cannot control that. I think for some people, like me, the fact that we do not control something so important in our lives, is what makes us afraid.

But we can control how we feel about it: So I plan to get involved more in my daily life, living the present moment! I think exercise and meditation will help. I will also try to fullfill my week with activities (not being able to work is hard for many of us). Instead worrying everyday next year (how long I think the process usually takes), I will do my best to live and appreciate what I was given, the joy of now instead of when.

Very very true. +1 for you.

New Delhi has kept my passport for 4 months now with not so much as a peep. Only when we got our MP did they give some sort of a time to look forward to.

Not being able to work is the hardest part. I had to come to India to submit my passport because I don't live or work in India. So I had to quit my job, leave my parents and come here to stay with relatives.

I'm prone to paranoia. What if they misplace my documents, etc. And pessimism: How am I going to explain to future employers these 4 months of doing nothing.

I found your post uplifting. Especially when you said 'focus on the now instead of when'. Thanks for that!

 

[Zouk Princesse]

I had a great chuckle at your story! I'm sure it was farrrrrr from funny as it was happening!

Lol although it was stressful going through it, we still couldn't help but laugh at times. It just seemed un-real! And now telling the story, we definitely smile ;D

 

[Gary_87]

I've been so paranoid I've done a number of things but the best is that I booked a spontaneous flight to mexico cos I just need the damn holiday haha.

Great thread. So worried about my application all the time but always saying "what application?" to my partner when she asks. Were in it together but rather just one of us stress!

 

[amikety]

I've enrolled in university to keep myself busy

 

[truesmile]

So true. I even wanted to go triple job just to get myself occupied, but good thing I didn't, I would have saved myself from paranoia but killed it by too much stress.. Anyway, as time pass i guess the paranoia level is getting lower, . . .

Sounds just like us. In that case, you may find the paranoia increases again as your expected PPR date comes . . . and goes . . . and goes . . . Coz then you start to worry about the potential interview at that point.

 

[meeshy]

i hate the weekends just because there is no chance in getting an update!

Dont no who else in this thread is going through Mexico city VO but they havent updated the Ecas since they recieved the application even though we have had requests for documents and everything. Apparently this happens and sometime doesnt update until after the process, but it sure doesnt help with the paranoia thats for sure!!

 

[MissDominica]

i hate the weekends just because there is no chance in getting an update!

Dont no who else in this thread is going through Mexico city VO but they havent updated the Ecas since they recieved the application even though we have had requests for documents and everything. Apparently this happens and sometime doesnt update until after the process, but it sure doesnt help with the paranoia thats for sure!!

At risk of increasing everyone's paranoia LOL... I would not say "no chance" of getting an udpate. LOL. While CIC does not work on the weekends, I've heard of people getting their e-cas updated at 4 AM in the morning of getting email updates from CIC on the weekends. Mind you, this is likely some data entry clerk they pay O.T. to come in on the nights/weekends during crunch times or something - as it is VERY RARE and almost unheard of.. but not ... impossible ;D

Paranoid yet?

PS I love this thread lol

 

[skas13]

i hate the weekends just because there is no chance in getting an update!

Dont no who else in this thread is going through Mexico city VO but they havent updated the Ecas since they recieved the application even though we have had requests for documents and everything. Apparently this happens and sometime doesnt update until after the process, but it sure doesnt help with the paranoia thats for sure!!

Well, I just saw a few messages from other posters that they got emails from CIC on Saturday during really weird times too, midnight, and 5 am! So hate to say...we get to obsess on weekends too!!

But good to know there is someone working 24/7 to get this all processed!

 

[Iay]

Sounds just like us. In that case, you may find the paranoia increases again as your expected PPR date comes . . . and goes . . . and goes . . . Coz then you start to worry about the potential interview at that point.

Very true tho. I really wish we never get an interview, but I've been practicing it with my husband anyway. We're role playing, pretending I'm the visa officer. LOL

Sometimes, I ask him silly questions like, what did you like about your wife? Why did you marry her? LOL. I love how he answers it anyway.