no parent at our wedding

[dt911]

Hello Folks,

My wife and i recently got married in Canada according to our hindu custom. we eloped first and then got married here in Canada with all our relative and friends. (it is a common practise in our culture) Although, my wife parents are aware of our wedding, they didn't attend the wedding because her parents are from a higher caste family then i am. But they gave their blessing through the telephone and promised that they would have a little wedding for us later in the year. i am applying for inland application, will not having her parent at the wedding be a concern, please help ?

 

[Fawzietrim]

I have the same question. I went to beirut for my wedding and all my family members attended like aunts and uncles and cousins. But my oarents mother and father couldnt leave canada because they didnt receive the pr card yet.
Hope that someone could help us

 

[dt911]

I have the same question. I went to beirut for my wedding and all my family members attended like aunts and uncles and cousins. But my oarents mother and father couldnt leave canada because they didnt receive the pr card yet.
Hope that someone could help us

i think in your case @Fawzietrim it is understandable.. if you explained it in a different sheet of paper.

 

[Fawzietrim]

i think in your case @Fawzietrim it is understandable.. if you explained it in a different sheet of paper.

I just explained that in the place they gave us and my mom wrote me a letter to proove that she is okay with our relationship. But i m still nervous that i didnt exolain enough or i didnt give enough information

 

[dt911]

I just explained that in the place they gave us and my mom wrote me a letter to proove that she is okay with our relationship. But i m still nervous that i didnt exolain enough or i didnt give enough information

just my understanding
i don't think they can refuse you based on your parent snot being at your wedding, i am sure as along as your relationship is genuine. it should be good. hey some people have good relationship with their parents and some don't have. so i am sure that CIC is clever enough to notice that

 

[canadianwoman]

Not having parents at a wedding is a concern, in particular where large weddings are a cultural norm. However, to lessen the visa officer's concern, you have to explain why the parents were not there.

However, I would not say your parents did not attend the wedding because they are of a higher caste. Just say they couldn't be there, they do approve of the wedding, and are planning a smaller celebration for the two of you later. A letter of support from them will help as well.

If plenty of other relatives and friends attended, it should be fine. Even if it was a very small wedding, if that is normal in your culture, there will be no problem. If it is not normal in your culture, you just have to explain why you chose that. Don't leave the visa officer guessing.

 

[mcbeth]

My wedding wasn't attended by either of our parents, we just explained the cost of travel was prohibitive to them all attending. No questions were asked by CIC officers.

 

[erwinjohn997]

without parents in the wedding is understandable in some culture. me My parents did not attend our wedding because they are not presently living here in Canada with us.

 

[Masriixo]

My husbands parents didn't attend the wedding because they were in Syria and couldn't travel due to safety issues. We Skyped them in and screen shot it and sent it in with an explanation stating as to why they didn't come

 

[fabioadias]

Thanks everyone for sharing your stories. This has been very helpful.

My wife and I got married here in Canada without any family at the cerimony. We'll be applying for her sponsorship pretty soon.

 

[dt911]

thankyou everyone for you insightful feedback...another story..

My sister spononserd my brother-in-law from another country..She also stated those reason about why my parents weren't at her wedding, that wasn't enought for them.. they gave her so many headache regarding that. honestly,i sometime think many of the CIC officer lack knowledge about another culture.

 

[mikeymyke]

thankyou everyone for you insightful feedback...another story..

My sister spononserd my brother-in-law from another country..She also stated those reason about why my parents weren't at her wedding, that wasn't enought for them.. they gave her so many headache regarding that. honestly,i sometime think many of the CIC officer lack knowledge about another culture.

Her case might be different than yours. Maybe she didn't do a good job of explaining the circumstances regarding your parents' situation, their finances, employment, etc or whatever it is that they can't come. Either way, as mentioned, depending on the country of origin, parents' attendance is either really important or not, and you need to look at the strength of your relationship profile. If you feel your relationship background is rather weak (ex. short courtship before marriage, large age difference, etc), perhaps it's not a bad idea to show that you've made a decent effort to try to get them to the wedding, but cannot.

My guess is probably, your sister not only had parents not come, but the rest of her relationship profile might be weak, so they're just giving her a headache about the parents not coming

 

[Prelude]

My wedding wasn't attended by either of our parents, we just explained the cost of travel was prohibitive to them all attending. No questions were asked by CIC officers.

Similarly, my American wife's parents didn't attend our (very small, private) wedding because her dad suddenly got a new job the week before. We just explained why they didn't come, and it wasn't an issue. There are more ways to prove a relationship is genuine than just by having a big wedding with all your family members there. :>

 

[Decoy24601]

Similarly, my American wife's parents didn't attend our (very small, private) wedding because her dad suddenly got a new job the week before. We just explained why they didn't come, and it wasn't an issue. There are more ways to prove a relationship is genuine than just by having a big wedding with all your family members there. :>

While I don't think this will be much of an issue for the OP, cultural norms do play a big part in how certain visa offices view the relationship. American applicants have a much lower burden of proof than the OP will have. It's also seen as more culturally normal for someone from the US to have let's say, a small court house wedding without parent's attending.

 

[canadianwoman]

The OP mentioned their Hindu customs. If they are both Hindus, then customarily the parents would be at the wedding, and the wedding ceremony would be large. If there is something that is not normal for your culture, you must explain it. Explain why parents were not there; explain why the wedding ceremony was not typical for your culture. And include lots of evidence that your relationship is genuine, to make up for any doubts that the visa officer might have because of the wedding.

It is certainly true that many people have been approved even if their parents were not at the wedding. However, small wedding ceremonies are not unusual in the USA and other western countries. They are unusual in certain cultures. Since your sister was questioned about this in her application, I'm guessing the visa officer felt her wedding did not meet her cultural norms, and wanted to know why. Explain in the application, and up the amount of relationship proof.