I agree too.You will get visa if your relationship is genuine.He might be trying to grill you ( rest i totally understand your sentiment when you mentioned you were hoping for a foreign-origin visa officer....its a well-known fact about most Indians being judgmental and rude about anyone who does not adhere to a "conventional way of living life")
Worst case, even if you don't get the visa...heavens wont fall you will instead earn pride that you stood for your marriage.BTW ( little tongue-in-cheek humour) India is not a bad country to live in...i love it!"Saare jahan se achcha hindustan humara
A half-hour interview and a clumsy guy cant understand the bond of love you share for each other.Cheers!