Need Help . . .

[adashner]

I just recently got PR and something happened between me and my sponsor. We'd been consistently fights and made up to each other and then only to fight again and again. Until the last big fight. First he told me he was done with me, then the fight kept going util I decide to leave him to avoid possible domestic abuse (it was almost midnight and we scream on top of our lung). He told me if I leave he'll report marriage fraud, but at that point I was too emotional to care. Then after I left, the same night he became nice to me again and asked me to go home and he'll sleep on the couch and I'll sleep on our bed. With hope, I went home and hope things will change. Then when I got home he started at it again. the next day we fought again and he wanted me to put in writing that left him for marriage fraud or he'll put our car loan in default (we both singed on seven year car loan btw) and he'll report me for marriage fraud. I got emotional again and I left him again. two hours after he told me he'll leave the apartment and he'll report to CIC that I used him to get PR. He even told me that I have until this morning to make up to him or he'll report me for real. I felt humiliated for this and out of spike I told him to go ahead and report me.

And he did. he called me when supposedly an agent was on the other line and asked me (these question were supposedly from the agent): if I have a family or my parent that will buy me a ticket to go home and if we both can resolve our relationship. he told me that if we don't resolve, then I would be put into an investigation and I'll be sent home.

My big question is . . . what should I do from now? I was left with our expensive apartment, our bank account got so overdrafted, we have car loan.

 

[adashner]

Just to add up, we've been together for almost five years and there are lots of story and history in ur relationship to tell but I can't wrap it up here

 

[wait_so_long]

As far as I know, Condition 51 has been revoked, and once you have landed, you are good. You don't have to stay with him for 2 years before you get your PR. PR means Permanent Resident. Permanent.

I'm pretty sure he was pulling a ruse on you. There was no agent.

How long have you been in the country? He is committed to a three year undertaking, meaning that he is responsible for any social services, etc. that you need to avail yourself of for the first three years of your residence.

 

[Tubsmagee]

Horrible to hear, but at least it is now and not ten years down the drain. I agree with above that there isn't the clause about staying together any longer; however, the great to your

 

[canadianwoman]

He can report you for marriage fraud, but it is unlikely that CIC would deport you. They don't usually even investigate, because they don't have enough workers. In any case, you have 5 years together, so that does not sound like marriage fraud, and will not to CIC. If they do investigate, you should get a lawyer. I would suggest you get a family law lawyer anyway to deal with the separation and the bills you have been left with.

 

[wait_so_long]

Wow, I was so overwhelmed by the emotional aspects of the original post, that I completely missed the financial aspects. Sounds like you guys got in over your head. Finances are great stressors on a marriage, and some people are not able to handle it well. Not being able to provide for your family can bring up feelings of inadequacy, and failure. While threats and intimidation are never okay, was there something that pushed him over the line?

 

[ScottishPolish]

It sounds like you need a family lawyer, this has nothing to do with CIC. Even if Condition 51 was still applicable, which it isn't, he is threatening you which means that you are in an abusive relationship, and under Condition 51 that means you can leave without fear of deportation. Doesn't matter if its physical or emotional abuse...nobody has to put up with that. You need to sort this out yourself - if you want to stay in the marriage that is your choice - if you want to leave it, that is your choice as well, but either way he is not in a position to threaten you with deportation. Once you land in Canada, you have the same rights as a citizen, (except for voting).

You need a lawyer, and not CIC.