Moved to Canada June 26, 2006
Married my now ex husband & sponsor on July 28, 2007
Became a Permanent Resident on May 31, 2010
So between the time of my marriage and the time I finally became a PR, my relationship had significantly gone downhill. I was unable to work since 2006, I had no friends being new to the country and I lived in an underground basement apartment. My ex kept putting off the sponsorship, saving a couple hundred dollars at a time for it then spending it all on other things. I expressed my concerns that I was becoming depressed and my anxiety was starting to become a burden. He even still continued putting the sponsorship off. It was only when I brought it up to him that I was going to leave him that he finally got things in order and started the process. By the time I had my interview I was doubtful of where our relationship was going. I had lost a lot of feelings that I had for him after I saw he didn't care about my depression, but I was still willing to give it another shot and clearly, things didn't work themselves out. I moved out soon after.
We have been separated for over a year but are still married. He has a lot of my personal belongings but he won't give me them until I pay him for the money he borrowed from his parents to pay for the sponsorship ($1,200ish if I remember right). On top of that he says I owe him for all the medical bills and background checks included in getting me sponsored, and he also claims that I owe him half of rent for the month that I moved out. But as I read on the application for sponsorship, his obligations are to provide me the basic requirements of living for 3 years, including rent and personal requirements (such as the sponsorship?).
I never wrote or signed anything stating that I owed him or his parents anything. I believe I paid enough in those 4 years of sitting alone in a basement apartment with no income, no friends, not being able to get an education and not being able to work. I'm 24 now, so losing those years kind of means a lot to me. I guess this isn't really a question as it is looking for advice, what can I say to him that will make him realize that he is responsible for me? And is there anyway for me to get my stuff back without throwing money at him to shut him up? :-\
Any responses are much appreciated.
Married my now ex husband & sponsor on July 28, 2007
Became a Permanent Resident on May 31, 2010
So between the time of my marriage and the time I finally became a PR, my relationship had significantly gone downhill. I was unable to work since 2006, I had no friends being new to the country and I lived in an underground basement apartment. My ex kept putting off the sponsorship, saving a couple hundred dollars at a time for it then spending it all on other things. I expressed my concerns that I was becoming depressed and my anxiety was starting to become a burden. He even still continued putting the sponsorship off. It was only when I brought it up to him that I was going to leave him that he finally got things in order and started the process. By the time I had my interview I was doubtful of where our relationship was going. I had lost a lot of feelings that I had for him after I saw he didn't care about my depression, but I was still willing to give it another shot and clearly, things didn't work themselves out. I moved out soon after.
We have been separated for over a year but are still married. He has a lot of my personal belongings but he won't give me them until I pay him for the money he borrowed from his parents to pay for the sponsorship ($1,200ish if I remember right). On top of that he says I owe him for all the medical bills and background checks included in getting me sponsored, and he also claims that I owe him half of rent for the month that I moved out. But as I read on the application for sponsorship, his obligations are to provide me the basic requirements of living for 3 years, including rent and personal requirements (such as the sponsorship?).
I never wrote or signed anything stating that I owed him or his parents anything. I believe I paid enough in those 4 years of sitting alone in a basement apartment with no income, no friends, not being able to get an education and not being able to work. I'm 24 now, so losing those years kind of means a lot to me. I guess this isn't really a question as it is looking for advice, what can I say to him that will make him realize that he is responsible for me? And is there anyway for me to get my stuff back without throwing money at him to shut him up? :-\
Any responses are much appreciated.
