Humasfar: Oh sure, I suppose you can make the ends meet if you spend wisely and only consume that what you and your wife really need and just be patient. Ok?
I have to admit that these are really poor economical times and although you see people work and spend, yet again, that is the top of the iceberg. Many companies are only hiring temps just as in USA and if they do hire permanently, that will take a lot of time, patience and am sure one showing them the right papers, degree's, job experiences etc to land the job and jump on board.
...
Getting used to the life/lifestyle etc here in Canada shouldn't be tough for people from any ethnic background or culture I should admit, as long as one knows the rules and regulations.
I can give you an example:
In the Netherlands, it is very common that co-workers joke around and tease each other in their team, even make sexist comments that are not to harm anybody etc, is just meant to make the workplace a bit more fun and bring smiles to each other's faces, we don't have cubicals and everybody is working together and really having fun at work and specific comments or conduct won't lead to the person being fired on spot etc. One can complain about harrassements etc, but that way the person will only isolate himself/herself and harm himself/herself, but here in Canada, just as in USA I suppose, one should be really truly careful with certain behaviour and/or comments and don't speak up your mind like I say. Just do your job and be good. Which isn't bad either after all.
Just what I do now, there are quite a few people at my work who don't like me for reasons such as see me as a threat to their jobs or are just jealous etc, but I stand out and keep my head on the shoulders and just talk to them, connect with them and try to smile/laugh with them when the opportunity does show up as to build a stronger relationship with them, but I am also smart to notice certain "tactics" of some of them to see what I will say or how my reaction will be so they can use it against me! ... so, if you land a job, then be very careful not to fall victim to their games. Ok?
These are the differences between here and my home country. I 've been into plenty of similar situations in my previous jobs but none of which ever resulted in me getting fired or anybody else getting/being fired, we just ignored each other and get along until peace was back at workplace etc etc.
But then again, I am afraid, for one, to announce here that these are really difficult times to find jobs here in Canada! ... Anywhere in Canada I suppose.
One of the reasons for the labour market worsening as of now and more so probabely in 2011 will be the Chinese economy to be slowing down and due to the fact that Canada is more focused on China and other emerging markets in the past few years than to USA only and I suppose we will see USA starting to improve its position from this point on and less so for China! :'( ... it isn't easy, let me be honest, it IS NOT easy to find a job here.
So be prepared for pretty much some disappointments and harsh reality out there. If you already have a job in your own country and can wait this whole landing process out for like another year, then please do so and don't give up your job and get yourself into a situation you don't know when it will land you a new job and a solid source of income.
Many of us, come over here being a PR and that means we ll be given some time to get things organised and make the big move. IF you want to apply for a citizenship, then you should be able to have lived and worked here for 3 years out of 5 and if you want your PR card to be extended, this should be 2 years as I 've understood, so out of 5 years as of the date your PR card is issued, you go and figure when is the best time to make the big move, ok?
I myself am still balancing between these thoughts of going back or stay! and I mean this ... I don't know ...I am confused all the time but probabely because of my own personality of being "non-chalante" and "easy-going", I go with the flow and live day by day and see where it lands, that is why I am here, I don't have kids and am not forced to finance and support a whole family etc, like in most cases you do, being the only person working in the family or sometimes together with the wife or husband as to make the ends meet and have your children or other family members provided with a good life.
So I can stay and go anywhere I want, anytime. I am waiting for my bf to come over but since I know how important it is for him to land a job or secure a job here first, now I am here myself, I tell him NOT to give up and come over and go looking for a job when he already has one.
I don't know ...
It isn't easy ...
But one thing is for sure, such move, such step in 'life", is a good way to rediscover yourself, mature up and realise what is really the most important thing in life. (Family)
I guess most of us are already blessed with plenty of such but only don't realise it, we 've a lot at risk and to lose when we make such a move. I myself had been romantisizing Canada because of my trips and shopping and fun contacts etc, but also willing to be closer to my family, but now, none of that is really comply to this new life and am really surviving rather than living. I had a living in The Netherlands, here, I am just trying to survive for the time being and am patient to see what else will be held for me in future.
I am not feeling sad or disappointed as to say so, but now, when I look back, I rather wish I had my previous job, the boring one like I so much hated it, having to go to work 4 or max. 5 days a week, come back home, have a BIG home with a few rooms that were just empty, enough money to spend on expensive luxuary travels and stuff and pay off my 'aweful" mortgage but not even complain about it. Now, living in a mouse hole that I rent, paying 120% of my income on rent only, paying grocery and all with my savings and living alone and waiting for some employer to finally say " hey, Charlotte, welcome on board".
Anyway ... wishing you all the best ...
One day off today and I better go and relax instead of writing.
God Bless You all.