Here is my experience with accompanying a Canadian spouse abroad and then applying for PRTD to return. Hope this might be helpful to some.
2006: Moved to Canada with a Work Visa together with my Canadian Common Law Partner. We both moved to Canada from Switzerland.
2007: Became PR sponsored by Common Law Partner.
2009: Got married in Canada.
2010: Moved back to Switzerland together.
2012: Our child was born in Switzerland (Swiss and Canadian Citizenship).
2016: Both my wife and I got jobs offered in Canada and decided to move back. Since both my wife and my son had Canadian citizenship, I needed to hope that I maintained my RO and applied for a PRTD to return. I was able to claim every day from 2011-2016 (last 5 years, 1932 days) towards RO because I was accompanying my Canadian spouse in Switzerland. PRTD was issued and I applied for a new PR card form within Canada once we moved back in 2016.
As others mention, I think it really depends on your specific situation. To be honest, it never ocurred to me that the 'who accompanies who' question might be an issue. If I had know, I would have been much more concerned. If I would not have been issued an PRTD my spouse probably would have had to sponsor me again, which would have taken much longer. Hope this helps some of you judging your own situation.
The details in your history make and illustrate a big difference. So it is good you share those.
And it is appreciated because it helps illustrate differences that matter.
PRs in circumstances similar to yours will generally have NO cause for concern.
In particular, as often noted, for purposes of getting credit for time abroad "
accompanying" a citizen-spouse, generally there is NO question about
who-accompanied-whom . . . and showing that the PR and Canadian citizen have been living together abroad generally suffices. In fact, as "
exceptions" go, this tends to be among the most readily, easily allowed.
. . .
UNLESS . . . .
EXCEPT . . . except when there are circumstances which more or less make it obvious the PR and Canadian citizen did not go abroad together, typically involving a PR who never actually settled in Canada (with some rare exceptions to this, with what I suspect was discrimination influencing one of the more well-known examples).
Thus, for you there should NOT have been any reason for concern, little or none at all, since you and your citizen partner were together IN Canada well before you went abroad. So even if you knew about the potential for this issue, it should not have caused you to worry. Again, this is one of the most readily, easily allowed exceptions.
Nonetheless, yes, this is a subject regarding which generalizing risks confusion and misunderstanding, especially since there are occasional anomalies, but it warrants emphasizing that usually, generally, a couple who were settled and living together in Canada
BEFORE they were living together abroad, are not likely to encounter any
who-accompanied-whom issue. Moreover, it is not necessary that they move abroad together at precisely the same time, and it ordinarily does NOT matter who goes abroad first. No matter why it is they have been living abroad.