Little Evidence

[Siouxie]

We married 20 months after meeting - my husband had been adamant he would never marry again (after a failed 1st marriage) and told everyone that for years, in fact he hadn't dated anyone for longer than 2 weeks in 15 years!

He got teased but in amongst that teasing were happy congratulations.

I don't think 2 years from meeting to marriage is a short time at all!

Why not "out" your husband next time you are out with friends?

Seriously though, I would be concerned that he doesn't want other people to know.

 

[justina]

@ Anthropos

My husband and I married less than three months after we met. While some people thought we were crazy, after they saw us together they realized we are well suited and love each other very much. We also found out later about many other people we know who married shortly after they met....and some of those were parents of friends, who have been together for 30 or 40 years after a shorter courtship than ours (and did not marry because they had to, but because they wanted to).

Everyone's relationship is different. There is definitely no standard amount of time people should know each other before marriage. What is right for me may not be right for you and visa versa.

Hope that makes you feel a little better!

 

[jdwhite21]

Anthropos:

You are not alone in the getting married quickly department... my husband and I were married 14 months after meeting. So you guys waited longer than us.

We were called in for an interview, both of us had to go, we were interviewed separately, both asked the same questions so they could compare answers. Hope that helps. But I wouldn't worry too much right now...

 

[missmini]

@ missmini - He does aknowledge our marriage, to me, my family, my friends, and select mutual friends. On his taxes and what not he would also say that he's married. I really think the issue is that he doesn't want to be teased, which is silly, but human. He says that around our first anniversary we can let them know we're married.

so then, i do not think u need to worry that much; each person is different don't push him to do something he's not comfortable with, at the end they r his friends, his family and he knows them better than u; also, there's no connection between his relations with his friends/family and his feelings for u

now, as for the interview, there's 50-50 chance that u could go to one or not; as canadianwoman advised u, don't give a lot of details unless they specifically ask u; maybe they want to clarify smthg while u think they want to clarify smthg else and at the end, they might get red flags where they initially did not

same for the letters; some people advise u to overdo it and try to eliminate any red flags they might have with extra letters and explanations; but at the end, u cannot guess what's in their mind

good luck, keep us updated

 

[waitingintz]

sorry if someone else already said this (didn't see it anywhere) but yes, if you are called for an interview it will be only you that has to go. Your husband would not have to travel to the US for the interview.

 

[Anthropos]

Thanks again, guys. I've been trying to be patient and understanding, but it does get tough. In the end, I do feel that his disclosures to his friends are his business, as long as they don't cause immigration problems for us. Our relationship is real and genuine, and in all other ways he is a loving and thoughtful partner. That's just a rather stressful quirk we're working through.

@ waitingintz - Thanks for that information. I appreciate it. Getting him into the states on short notice is a problem, so I hope they'd at least be willing to interview him here.