Kingston,Jamaica

[lonely_wife]

Can-Indy-Jam... that is a good one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[jahlove]

OMG what a way wi quiet today.

Not a word from Kgn, wonder what's going on with them.

Make some noice people!!!!!!!!!!, come on make some noice!!!!!!!!

Come kgn start calling man, cho! start making those calls now!!!!!!

 

[lonely_wife]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR lol im making some noise jahlove hehehehehehehehe wish it was saying update and not aaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr for me getting angry cause nothing is happening lol hahahahahaha OMG still a few hours

 

[jahlove]

LOL, i know my dear but at least you are shouting, the day is still young indeed.

 

[lonely_wife]

I felt good at the beggining of the day and god I am not sure what happen but seems like the fire I had is dying lol

 

[lilmaya]

Trust me... going into another SHORT friday and then the weekend!

SOMETHING TODAY KINGSTON!!! PLEAAAASSSE!

 

[jahlove]

Indeed lonely_wife, i am almost ready to give up, all this jus seem so unfair, i really dont have to energy to remain positive about the whole situation. This is too much stress on my heart, i cant deal with it.

 

[lonely_wife]

god lilmaya i don't even count friday as part of the working week for them but they are there all day but I count it out of the calling days so I have no hopes for tomorrow never nobody getting a call on a friday that's why my fire is dying slowly lol

jahlove I know but we have to keep supporting each other and try to stay positive good things will happen soon but OMG is it ever heard to think positive when you feel so much stress, frustration and anxiety inside....

 

[lonely_wife]

I must add impatience lol forgot the most important one hahaha

 

[CharlieD10]

Chin up, ladies

Can-Indy-Jam...hilarious!!

Your reunions will be all the sweeter when they come!

I have found that it's harder to stay positive when you focus on the immediate outcome...so instead of focusing on that call from KG...ask yourself, am I ready for my husband to come home? I mean, I know you might be emotionally ready, but what about other ways? Is there space in the closets and the bathroom for his stuff? What about a spot for him to relax and unwind?

Let me explain...since I am the one being sponsored, my husband is the one stressing the wait for the decisions on our file, LOL. (Me, I am too busy stressing about work!) In the meanwhile, though, he has been busy getting his "bachelor pad" ready for occupation by a woman. So, he re-arranged the furniture in the den so that there is a "reading nook" for me, a place to relax and read, which I love to do, with a chaise lounge and reading lamp. He also built a bookcase for my prized books, which are going with me. When the weather warms up, he will be adding on a screened deck to the back of the house, because I love to sit outside in the evenings. And finally, he is upgrading the bathroom attached to the master bedroom so I can have space in there, too.

All the planning and the work that goes into these projects keeps my husband busy and focused on my arrival, rather than the moment when it becomes possible, which is less stressful for him. My arrival is a happy occasion, the anticipation buoys his spirits. If he were to focus on the approvals we need, it would stress him to no end, and in turn he would stress me out.

So, just a suggestion, ladies...it might be easier if you focused on what you can control, which is how ready you and your home are to welcome your husbands home, than on what you can't control (KG making that call).

Let's keep the positive vibes going! NNNNEEEXXXTTT!!!

 

[chelley]

awesome post Charlie... just plain awesome!!!

other suggestions of ways to help get things organized...

maybe organize his resume for him, research the job market, get some preliminary networking done if you can.... figure out what he could be doing, where, how he's going to get back and forth... he would be at a HUGE advantage if he had a job lined up for him when he landed... it's going to be rough if he's not working right away and the job market is not rebounding... not only is it hard having the added expenses, but i know my husband was unhappy not working and providing when we first arrived... it's a strain all around and one you should prepare yourselves for... maybe just registration in a training course or some sort of class so he's got something to get him started right away...

if your file is close to being done (or even if it's not) he's going to (eventually) need warm weather clothes... maybe that would be a good welcome present (and you might catch some good end of season sales still)... shop shop shop!

ummm.. drivers licences.. i've posted in the past about how they can trade their licences if they have them (and get a G1 with an immediate G2 (in ON))... will you need a (another) vehicle?

all the little details are important too and he'll probably be happy if you have it in order and can help him along the way... SIN numbers, health cards...


sports? food? anything else that would make him feel more welcome and comfortable in his new home (charlie, your hubby sounds AWESOME btw ).... when we hooked up the TV, hubby wanted the cricket channel... seemed silly to me, but he gets his money's worth watching the dumb sport (opps lol)


all that aside, go out and enjoy your last days/weeks or even months of independence hang out with your friends and family, have dinner, drinks ect... you might not see them for awhile once he lands

anyone else got any ideas???

 

[lonely_wife]

Thanks Chelley and Charlie!!!

Well i must admit I have a friend that works in a center for newcomers and I already made an appointment with her to see what she could offer us. I really want hubby to take some french classes and he is willing I convinced him lol.... he said he can't be in a room and not understand anything it bugs him so he finally gave in lol

Also last night while I was bored at work I was researching about drivers liscence as hubby will get my car when he gets here as I plan to buy a newer one. I have been looking around asking friends about jobs and all and looks like we maybe lucky cause I may have found something for him to start off.

I did clean but I am not ready to empty out the whole closet yet and have half of it empty cause I think that will make me want him here more so Im gonna wait a little longer until I do that

I will have to exchange some of my good channels for sports booooooo.... but it's ok I guess I am ok with the compromise cause I dont want to pay more then I already do... it's suppose to be 99$ dollars a month package deal but my bill is not anywhere close to that its actually almost double that....

I already have a surprise for my hubby he wanted a big screen tv well I got him one so ill watch my shows in the bedroom on the 20inch while he can watch his sports on the 52inch in the living room lol Now i want to buy a new dining room table so we can have nice dinners around the table since i am alone all the time i eat on the couch or in my room...

I must say thinking of all this kidda cheered me up.. thanks ladies :-*

 

[CharlieD10]

Woohoo, lonely_wife, that sounds great, you are on the ball!

Start saving for that dining table, dinner is always nicer when you can focus on the meal and each other

I am so pleased your hubby has agreed to French lessons, I have about talked mine into me taking them! For some reason he is not too happy with that side of his heritage ( family drama ) and thinks letting me learn French will corrupt me. Anyways, I have almost gotten him to agree, he just needs a little more work Tell hubby he can romance you in French, it is the "Language of Love" after all! 8)

Let's keep those plans coming ladies, who else wants to share?

 

[lonely_wife]

Charlie, if I am lucky I will get a big tax return this year and I will be able to buy my kitchen table and save some money outta that this is the one that i want let me show you

http://www1.thebrick.com/brickb2c/jsp/catalog/product.jsp?id=MN500PK7&navAction=jump&navCount=2

I must agree with you with a nice dining room table and some french classes hubby should be able to romance me in french..... Lets just say I hope he will end up being able to say more than the song from the moulin rouge says voulez-vous coucher avec moi ce soir? which means would you sleep (but its the bam bam way) with me tonight lol

Anyways I am gonna try to go sleep cause I worked a night shift yesterday and I am working one tonight and I still haven't slept so I am off to bed lol

 

[chelley]

its not only uplifting but it's empowering... When I went thru my wait I concentrated on getting everything we needed for the baby and move Diaper coupons, sales, ebay, I was obsessed... My hubby was 8 hours away in the UK (5-6 hour time difference and no digicel lol), and working 3 jobs to save money....so we would sometimes go a few days without speaking more than a short call here and there when we could catch each other... never mind that I saw him once during my entire pregnancy... So I know it can be hard!!!


If you can't find anything you can do for hubby, find something you've always wanted to do and try it (a Chinese cooking course, kickboxing, photography, or just reading a book you've been meaning to... Passing time is another good way to make this managable!)