Kingston,Jamaica

[frankfield]

On the day when you feel hopeless, ready to really give up ... the call will come. It will take so long that you feel by the time they give me this visa I wont care anymore cause they made me wait too long.. Not so, you will forget how pissed you were the moment the passport arrives with the shiny stamp.

But for now all you can see is the sad goodbyes so I share this song
http://youtu.be/Y_Rg6AAig8g

 

[frankfield]

In case you want to sing along

http://youtu.be/s9mUN-LKcsA

 

[carm_cnd]

On the day when you feel hopeless, ready to really give up ... the call will come. It will take so long that you feel by the time they give me this visa I wont care anymore cause they made me wait too long.. Not so, you will forget how pissed you were the moment the passport arrives with the shiny stamp.

But for now all you can see is the sad goodbyes so I share this song
http://youtu.be/Y_Rg6AAig8g

Wow I hope your right. Hubby is so angry with everything to do with this process. He even tells me that he cant keep waiting and that I deserve to be with someone who can be a part of my life now. I know he is just missing me right now but its hard to sit here waiting and then to hear all this from him too. I just want to be by his side right now. I am planning on going for Christmas and I hope that he can come home with me. He's not good with saying his feelings but I know this is now really effecting him. I never thought I would say that I am the strong one in this even with the tears I cry I still think positive and we are next.

 

[Nevaeha]

Nev; make that money girl but missing you; Chickie you are under manners with your trainee; missing you too.

Thanks for keeping the forum in positive spirits, Kadi! :-*

I flew home today and let me tell you it's F.R.E.E.Z.I.N.G!!!! Going to -27 on Saturday!!!! :-X

 

[carm_cnd]

Thanks for keeping the forum in positive spirits, Kadi! :-*

I flew home today and let me tell you it's F.R.E.E.Z.I.N.G!!!! Going to -27 on Saturday!!!! :-X

LOL welcome home! its -42 here today

 

[Nevaeha]

On the day when you feel hopeless, ready to really give up ... the call will come. It will take so long that you feel by the time they give me this visa I wont care anymore cause they made me wait too long.. Not so, you will forget how pissed you were the moment the passport arrives with the shiny stamp.

But for now all you can see is the sad goodbyes so I share this song
http://youtu.be/Y_Rg6AAig8g

Thanks for this, frankfield.

I know so many forum members, including myself, that have had enough of this process. I will never understand why any of us have to wait 20 months and longer -- but I guess that's not for me to know...and I've said it a million times...it shouldn't even take a year for applications to be processed...not even complicated cases.

My very calm and understanding husband is having such a hard time with the process at this point. I know he will be SUPER happy when he gets the PPR call and I will cry -- happy tears, tears of sorrow, tears of relief, tears of anger, tears of EVERYTHING!!! And I'm hoping that the pain of our immigration journey will be washed away with that one phone call...

 

[Nevaeha]

LOL welcome home! its -42 here today

You win!

 

[Nevaeha]

Wow I hope your right. Hubby is so angry with everything to do with this process. He even tells me that he cant keep waiting and that I deserve to be with someone who can be a part of my life now. I know he is just missing me right now but its hard to sit here waiting and then to hear all this from him too. I just want to be by his side right now. I am planning on going for Christmas and I hope that he can come home with me. He's not good with saying his feelings but I know this is now really effecting him. I never thought I would say that I am the strong one in this even with the tears I cry I still think positive and we are next.

I think most of our hubbies are feeling this way, carm...

I'm sorry to hear your hubby is frustrated too. :'(

 

[carm_cnd]

You win!

LOL I don't know if I can say winning at this point lol But it will be warmer tomorrow so there is a upside

 

[carm_cnd]

I think most of our hubbies are feeling this way, carm...

I'm sorry to hear your hubby is frustrated too. :'(

thanks Nev. Yes I know this is not him talking that he is just upset but just sucks to hear things like that from him. Makes me wonder if this is just too much for us to handle

 

[Nevaeha]

thanks Nev. Yes I know this is not him talking that he is just upset but just sucks to hear things like that from him. Makes me wonder if this is just too much for us to handle

Absolutely not!

You are handling this and the victory will be much sweeter when your hubby gets the call for PPR!!! This is a tough time of year to be going through the process -- families should be together -- especially for holidays and special times during the year.

You.are.one.day.closer.to.the.end.of.your.journey.

We all are!!!!

 

[frankfield]

Thanks for this, frankfield.

I know so many forum members, including myself, that have had enough of this process. I will never understand why any of us have to wait 20 months and longer -- but I guess that's not for me to know...and I've said it a million times...it shouldn't even take a year for applications to be processed...not even complicated cases.

My very calm and understanding husband is having such a hard time with the process at this point. I know he will be SUPER happy when he gets the PPR call and I will cry -- happy tears, tears of sorrow, tears of relief, tears of anger, tears of EVERYTHING!!! And I'm hoping that the pain of our immigration journey will be washed away with that one phone call...

Wow! I get chills. Sharing the experience of those who wait on the other side makes one see how hard this can be on ones psyche/ones marriage. The wait makes the work of building ones family more difficult. Women tend to express themselves more, are not afraid to come undone. Men for the most part deal with in entirely different ways but they too sometimes feel broken, disillusioned with the process especially when they might have had lots of disappointment in their lives. The longer the process for them, the more likely they are to be hard on themselves especially when they are not financially secure. It sometimes affects their self esteem when they can't afford to send you a ticket. I don't know if anyone agrees but the wait in some ways play a part in individuals feeling resentful towards each other without even realizing when the finally get together. The women spent so much money going back and forth and the man gets a bit competitive when he gets here because the long wait at time made him feel emasculated.

I know not all men waiting has financial constraints but those who do feel as if their financial troubles are the reasons why immigration/and other folks are disrespecting the validity of the marriage. I am guaranteeing you the day he/she walks through those door at Pearson you will forget the pain but not the experience. Keep sharing the guys experiences girls, it makes the Immigration Officers watching this thread see it is real lives they are dealing with and not soap opera. Tug at their hearts with heart felt stories of separation. You best believe they are reading this too.

 

[frankfield]

I am speaking to my situation as it pertains to competitiveness.. my husband does not want me to work anymore. I have a great career, love it but know how this may be leading to him wanting to be a sole support person. I don't feel he is being selfish but think he somehow hated that I had to do so much for so long. He now wants for me to "relax' and let him return the favour...(ahhh so sweet on a snow day).. then I start rebelling. It is hard to give up the power. Anyway you get it.. If we only tell how the process affects us, it makes those waiting in Jamaica come across as opportunists.. like they are not waiting and suffering too, you know what I mean?

 

[Nevaeha]

Wow! I get chills. Sharing the experience of those who wait on the other side makes one see how hard this can be on ones psyche/ones marriage. The wait makes the work of building ones family more difficult. Women tend to express themselves more, are not afraid to come undone. Men for the most part deal with in entirely different ways but they too sometimes feel broken, disillusioned with the process especially when they might have had lots of disappointment in their lives. The longer the process for them, the more likely they are to be hard on themselves especially when they are not financially secure. It sometimes affects their self esteem when they can't afford to send you a ticket. I don't know if anyone agrees but the wait in some ways play a part in individuals feeling resentful towards each other without even realizing when the finally get together. The women spent so much money going back and forth and the man gets a bit competitive when he gets here because the long wait at time made him feel emasculated.

I know not all men waiting has financial constraints but those who do feel as if their financial troubles are the reasons why immigration/and other folks are disrespecting the validity of the marriage. I am guaranteeing you the day he/she walks through those door at Pearson you will forget the pain but not the experience. Keep sharing the guys experiences girls, it makes the Immigration Officers watching this thread see it is real life's they are dealing with and not soap opera. Tug at their hearts with heart felt stories of separation. You best believe they are reading this too.

You hit the nail on the head in my situation, frankfield...minus the resentment; however, I can see how that could happen.

My hubby wants to support and take care of me -- 'be the man'. I tell him there will be many years for him to do that!!!! It's also hard on him when his 'friends' that married American girls got through their process quickly. Their 'teasing' of how long it is taking for my hubby to get to Canada has taken a toll on him. I choose to not even share the good news I read about on the forum with him anymore because it just makes him feel worse...like something is wrong with him because we have been waiting for so long now.

 

[frankfield]

You hit the nail on the head in my situation, frankfield...minus the resentment; however, I can see how that could happen.

My hubby wants to support and take care of me -- 'be the man'. I tell him there will be many years for him to do that!!!! It's also hard on him when his 'friends' that married American girls got through their process quickly. Their 'teasing' of how long it is taking for my hubby to get to Canada has taken a toll on him. I choose to not even share the good news I read about on the forum with him anymore because it just makes him feel worse...like something is wrong with him because we have been waiting for so long now.

Exactly! My husband's brother got a visitors visa to the USA. His brother failed to return when he was suppose to and his family kept saying some sarcastic things to my husband like.. "you guys have to decide if you are not going to Canada, your wife have to come" or 'oh so and so gone to America and his girlfriend is not a citizen, how come you taking so long? Or oh your daughter needs both of her parents living under the same roof. Even complete strangers where telling him "King man you know it is not good for the I to live apart from the empress.. I learned how to swear.. believe me. The thing is we never told anyone I was sponsoring him. No one knew, not his mother, brothers, sisters.. no one. yet they still tried to get into our business. When they use to say "you no gone yet', he'd answer in a rude way.. gone whe? At times it become a kind of embarrassing situation for the men cause people start to mock them and say "you woman don't want you, blah blah blah. It was not pretty. When it finally happens the hypocrites will be so shame and when he gets here the begging begins. Nev, tell him to ignore them.. he who laugh last laugh best.