Charlie, you always have the best and most positive advice; thanks for sharing!CharlieD10 said:I was passing through to give an eye, I am back to lurking these days, I don't say much, just watch the proceedings.
As for words of wisdom, well, all I can share is what I learned. To feel up and down through this process is normal. It is also normal to feel like someone else is in charge of your life, and that they are holding up your progress (yes, KG, I mean you). However, I also learned that no-one but me is in charge of how I choose to meet the challenge of the waiting.
So, I took charge by:
1) Waiting positively. It's OK to be miserable sometimes, but not all the time, it doesn't make things any better. Of course, you miss your spouse and want to get started with the rest of your lives, but the end of immigration is not the end of challenges to your marriage, so get in some practice through this process of dealing with challenges together, even from a distance.
2) Waiting actively. As the applicant, I was headed for a new life in a new country, so I tried to prepare myself for it by reading Canadian news, watching Canadian TV, familiarising myself with what would be different about where I was going to live as opposed to where I was coming from (A LOT!). My husband, as the sponsor, tried to have certain things prepared for my arrival, like he knew I wanted a place in the house to be able to read so he built me bookshelves, he had paperwork ready to go for my SIN and health cards, he advised his bank that I would need to be added to his account, he began networking on my behalf to help me find a job, those kinds of things.
Always remember, KG is in charge of when you get the visa, true, but only you are in charge of what happens before, during, and afterwards, and you need to be prepared for it!
Nevaeha said:Charlie, you always have the best and most positive advice; thanks for sharing!
Thanks for your support and for continuing to lurk!
Can you believe you've almost been in Canada for one year? Happy Anniversary!
lonelycanadianwifey said:
If time is flying by you must be having fun!tamarindball said:Time surely flies. Charlie came a day before I did so I know too well how that feels.
Nevaeha said:If time is flying by you must be having fun!
Happy Anniversary to you too, tamarindball!
lonelycanadianwifey said:
that true it not going to be along weekend but next thursday is a holiday out here so that will make it up.....labour day in jamaicacarm_cnd said:Happy friday every one! hope you enjoy your long week n its not a long weekend in Jamaica
well next week they better be in great moods like I am today and start giving out good news!!! Good news to everyoneMaddants said:that true it not going to be along weekend but next thursday is a holiday out here so that will make it up.....labour day in jamaica
lol....it would be nice to hear some good news next weekcarm_cnd said:well next week they better be in great moods like I am today and start giving out good news!!! Good news to everyone
Nevaeha said:One is a very lonely number...
Where is everyone?
I hope everyone that is visiting their spouses in JA are having a wonderful time! As for all of us in Canada, I hope you are enjoying the longggggggggggggggg weekend!
Kingston will be back hard at work on Monday...let's hope and pray for some good news for our forum family!
lonelycanadianwifey said:
tamarindball said:I haven't gone anywhere Miss Nev. Still here enjoying the weather and weekend. Just came back from bowling which was fun!
Hello Jam/Fam.Nevaeha said:
tamarindballllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll!!!!!!! Good evening!!!!!!
Were you glow bowling?
I'm concerned about our little forum family and how they are feeling. I realize it's the weekend; however, I can't believe how quiet it has been on this thread the last little while. Maybe they need a break from the whole immigration process. If any of you happen to be lurking - I MISS YOU!!!!!but completely understand if you are busy and/or need time away. :-*