She lied about not knowing where you are.
Your situation is honestly a disaster at this point and you should be very concerned. This disaster is largely of your own making. You have ignored repeated requests to appear by CBSA. This was a terrible decision on your part and it is extremely problematic that you have not attended. Your spouse then lied and said she did not know where you are. This is extremely problematic for your sponsorship application.
You need a lawyer NOW.