- is your marriage registered somewhere ?
- Have you added her as wife in your EE profile ?
if yes to any of the above questions - you dont have a choice - you have to apply as Married
Now - parents going to know etc etc - it depends on your luck - but the police man going to your home may ask about the marital status.
In my case - the police man did verify the marital status
you can ask some cousin / friend to manage if possible -
mayb just tell your parents about it and be done with it once and for all - thats what i did !