Umm a husband caring for his wife and supporting her emotionally through surgery and recovery is NOT employment! I would not pay someone to be shoulder to cry on for example when I am in pain. I cant pay someone to be my spouse and hold me at night to tell me everything will be ok. This is different from hiring a babysitter. Looking after kids is not due to compassionate reasons. The similar scenario would be if a parent was severely ill and a child needed to be with them. It's compassionate reason, not illegal employment for a spouse to be with their injured and ill other half. When I was away on duty before, the military sent me home when a family member was ill. Not so I could 'work' for them. But because they are my family member and it was compassionate reason to be with them. I have read that medical issues are considered for TRV. In any case, the purpose of visit box was not checked. If they had thought medical reasons were not valid reason for him to come on compassionate grounds, then they surely would have also checked that one?
The potential overstay we SHOULD have negated with numerous letters from NGOs etc. stating that he HAD to return to tie up loose ends prior to his PR and the fact that if he overstayed, I would be harbouring a fugitive. It would actually cause me to lose my security clearance and be booted from the CAF. Also it would harm his PR application so why would we even risk it?
VFS actually told him the medical reason was FAR more likely to be approved than just tourism. Tourism would in all likelyhood not give them reason to let him come here prior to PR. Again, compassionate reasons. I am thinking to try and contact the military attache in New Delhi they work in SAME building. The military attache can verify to CIC that my medical issue is genuine (not to mention the documents I sent proving it). Sometimes they have some pull.
We dont have time to get the notes before reapplying. He needs to be here by last week in May to catch that fertility cycle. Means we have to reapply ASAP. So I will send my t4 from work and the RRSP T4 as well to show my assets and income. They cant refute those. FOr him, he's going to dump some extra in his account to show the new officer this time, that he made the effort to save some more funds to rectify the issues the first officer indicated. So he will show his effort to rectify the issues and hopefully the new officer will see that and take into consideration.
As it is now, if we only have July to try to conceive I am thinking we might need to go straight to IVF while I am there in July to give best chance for conception. Because after that it will be when he gets his PR which will be when I am going on 42 if the 17 month estimate is correct. I can't go back to India in mean time because I used all of my time to go on this july trip. I wont have any more till April 2017.
