I am an American and I married my husband almost 10 years ago. For the past 11 years I have temporarily lived with my husband for my 6 month period of time that is allowed for visitors and then I return to the States for a few days and return once again to Canada for another 5-6 months. We've tried repeatedly to figure out what forms and just what we need to do so that I don't have to keep traveling like this and just "visiting" for my 6 month period, but we have no idea where to begin. Plain and simple, I want to live in Canada permanently with my husband and stay for more than 6 months at a time and still be able to freely visit my family in the States without hassel at the border each time we cross. Right now they keep bugging us and saying that we need to "make a decision on which country you both will reside in and finalize it or you will be split up and go back to your own respective countries". Can they really do that? Split up my husband of 10 years from me and make him return to Canada and me to the States? I DO NOT want that to happen....we are terrified that we will be split up on any one of our next visits across the border and not see each other again. We hate crossing the border, it gets worse everytime, but we're just so confused on how to apply for things and what we need to apply for to begin with. Can anyone help me with my situation? Please.... Thanks