I have been dupped

[taken4aride]

Please help....

Long story short. I meet a woman at hurricane Katrina where I worked as a Coroner in the USA. We hit it off and after dating she talked me into moving to Canada as a common law spouse. Last year I got my perm res status and all was well. Well, we have split on very bad terms and I now found out that she was only separated at the time of sponsoring me and not divorced. Lawyers are telling me she needed to be divorced to sponsor. Is this true or not?

Now for the good part......I have also found out she was the wife of Canada's worst serial rapist in history from Toronto ( I will not put a name). She also married him so he could stay in the country (aprox- 15yrs ago) I found out he is serving a 35yr term for the crimes in Kingston Penn and will be deported upon release. I saw that if you married a person or sponsored them and they did not follow threw in 3 yrs of marriage or sponsorship then you could not sponsor another person ever. Is this also true? I am aware that the immigration laws were rewritten because of this man in the late 1980's.

Yes I made a huge mistake and left my career and home for this person only to be taken for everything including my dog and left with only a backpack and nothing else as she sold all my stuff and kept the rest knowing I had no choice but to return to the USA for the last month. . Any info would be great and thank you.

What can be done to this Woman for doing this to someone if in fact it is true she was not able to sponsor me in the first place.? Will immigration follow threw and stop her or is it just over and that is that? Lawyers are telling me it is $400.00 per hour. Also, on the immigration form it states she is responsible for three years to provide support and so on is this also true?

 

[louieong]

Is this really a true story?

 

[taken4aride]

I hate to say it but yes it is. There was really a movie made in Canada about him and I need advice what to do about her. I have not spoken to her and she changed all ph#s and emails so there is no contact. I will not say a name on here so I do not break any rules but if you were to type " worst serial rapist in Canada on the net tons of stuff will pop up to prove this is 100% for real. I feel like such a fool and was completely used.

 

[taken4aride]

I have contacted immigration to get my records since I do not know what she put on the sponsor forms and they emailed saying they are looking into this but can anyone answer the above questions please.

 

[rjessome]

Now that's quite the story!

About your sponsorship, she could have sponsored you under the conjugal category quite legally even though she was still married to someone else.

What are you trying to accomplish here? It sounds like you have family law issues that don't have anything to do with immigration. You say you have informed Canada Immigration about this and they are investigating. If she did lie, what could happen is that she may be charged with fraud/misrepresentation under the Immigration Act and your PR status may be revoked. If she chose the conjugal category and didn't lie, then all is fine as far as immigration is concerned.

Regarding support for 3 years, she signed an undertaking saying that she is responsible for providing for your basic needs of food, housing, etc. If she doesn't and you end up receiving welfare from a Canadian provincial government, she will have to repay that to the government.

That's about it as far as immigration is concerned. The rest sounds like you need to speak to a family law lawyer.

 

[Leon]

You can be common law and still be married to someone else. I don't see how that invalidates her sponsorship. If you stay in Canada and take social assistance, she would get billed for it but if you did that, you'd only be doing that to spite her. It's much better to work if you can get a job because social assistance isn't really enough to live on.

So what exactly do you want to stop her from doing? Having relationships with guys that end up in a bitter break-up? Who knows beforehand which relationships end up in a bitter break-up? She will be bound by your sponsorship for 3 years after you became PR and then she can sponsor another boyfriend if she wants to.

 

[taken4aride]

I think everyone went the wrong way with this post. I am not trying to get revenge at all. I lost my job because of her and also had to sleep in a park in Barrie for 41 days ( homeless). That was the point of stating she would not give me my stuff. I have put over 15K into her home, re did the landscaping and so on and then was thrown out like a piece of garbage. This is why I asked the questions as a lawyer is $400.00 per hour. This woman was married to her last husband for only 4 months and took him for everything. Yes it is not only men that are the ones to use people and take them for everything. I am 99% sure she sponcered me as common law that is why I asked about sponsorship.

 

[Leon]

Did you try going to the police? In a situation like that, they are supposed to escort you into the home and let you take your stuff. Did you file charges against her in small claims? That doesn't cost a lot. Did you inquire about legal aid as well as at newcomers or immigrants centres which sometimes have access to a free lawyer?

I assume if you were sleeping in a park that you did not have any money so why did you not have any money? You don't have a bank account? You don't have a job? You had 15k and you put it into a house where you are not on the deed?

IMO you should go to small claims. You can claim for your stuff and if you put some cash money into her house if you had an understanding that she would pay you back. For work, not really since you did that for her while you were together and you did not expect her to pay you or you would have given her a bill for it.

 

[taken4aride]

Yes I called the police and had them meet me there and in front of them she refused to let me in and refused to give me anything. I had one suite case on the front lawn and the garage and front door were closed. She has since told me she sold a lot of it off for money, The police said and I quote " let it go and start over" They did not in force a thing and did not want to get involved at all, they said there was nothing they could do but go to family court and in my case- living on the street and all I had no choice and she knew this. I think this was completely wrong.

She took the last of my money the day before to pay bills as she said but never did pay one as I have found out.

I put into the home approx. 15K give or take and redid the home from top to bottom- this all happened after there was nothing left to do to the home. The home is in her name only because when it was bought I was not landed yet. I do have the emails from her promising to put me on the home but never did.

I am in a situation where I am staying at a friends for now in the states as I really have nothing but a pair of jeans and sneakers. She keep it all and did so on purpose. In my bag she did pack a 10 foot piece of rope.

The sad part is she keep this a secret from her employer in Barrie and everyone other than when it hit the papers and news back when. Her parents even moved to BC because of this and what she did. She made out very well again and I also found out that when we meet she used another man the same way. Was married for 4 months and took him for 1/2 the home and made close to 40K in a year from that.

 

[taken4aride]

OOOps. Forgot. Yes I had a job but lost it due to this. Had another job call while I was on the street but she would not let me get my stuff to work for them or use the second car ( also in her name) only because she wanted me to be forced out of the country and leave me with no options.

 

[chandan]

My advice?
Go to a family court.
Good luck

 

[taken4aride]

I would love to go to family court but the cost and travel time plus the fact that she sold my stuff already. I do not think anything can be done now......

 

[Leon]

If you win in small claims, she would have to pay you the value of your stuff. Having seen too much Judge Judy and similar shows in my lifetime, I don't think you'll have any chance of getting back any money you put in her house or the value of work you did on her house unless there was an agreement for her to pay you back which I am sure there wasn't since you were intending to live there yourself at the time. Since you are already out of there, maybe the police was right. Cut your losses and let it go and move on. Next time you move in with somebody, make sure you keep your money in your account and don't put money into property that isn't in your name. Paying half of the mortgage and half of the utilities as rent would be fair but anything above that is the problem of the person who is on the deed. If the person tells you you need to pay because you are in a relationship, then tell them if that is so, your name should be on the deed.

Since you still have your PR, you are free to look for a job in Canada as well as the US. You will keep your PR up to 3 years after you left Canada.