newtone said:
Mother is mental case, daughter is mental case, before you end up in the mental hospital go with Option 4 I recommended in my earlier post. If this was an arranged marriage what the hell were you thinking? if this was love marriage then love used to be blind once upon a time, but and now its just down right crazy. Either ways my friend you have compelling evidence, recording and perhaps video, emails and your physical abuse. If you could get a witness that would be even better. I highly suggest you get a good lawyer and sort this out. Good luck
Option 4 I did try that and she would cry saying I am leaving her. And not care for her. We did go to court a few months ago and ready to sign then she backed away. But one night she did ask me to sign so I did it for her she seen I was serious and she was freaking out a bit. Now she has it signed. Nothing changed really.
I had no idea about this kind of a thing before. Or how it is. She even tells me in a skype converstation recently after being here in Canada.
Even says "I can't understand mself, I think I have schizophrenia" I try to tell her she doesn't etc to not make her self feel down and what not but being nice didn't work.
Even when kicked out of her parents house when I came her mom said she has a mental disease. But yet she can keep a job?
Saying I don't have enough strenth to defend myself. I mean what does she want me to do? Beat her down? I don't want to go to prison! Saying any normal man would put her on a lock down. Like honestly.
Saying she will go crazy on me because it's her behaviour, and can't stand being around people. Then she acts all nice in the same conversation the same minute? Even in a message I took screen shots of it. Her mom said she was nuts and needs to go see a Dr. but she won't go because she can drive a car and has a job. Then telling me if someone is bipolar I can't blame her for it? That she can't control it. Saying if she goes and gets meds she is excused from her behaviour.
You got no idea how it is to deal with someone like this. A fight breaks out, then 10 minutes later acts like nothing happens or she'll leave then text me saying if I want to go down town to eat and what not. I never say no I always agree and shes in a better mood so I'm always thinking she won't act that way no more. But then it happens again and it's like hard to deal with. It has nothing to do with mening up like someone said or wears the pants. I mean in the middle of the night once she got up and started hitting me then turns around and goes back to sleep. Yeah after that last statment I can see it now.
So many times after a fight she won't talk to me for 2 days or come home. Goes to her parents, then when she sees me after a few days brings me gifts and Tshirt because she feels guilty. But when the next fight breaks it's "give me back the money for the things I got you..." If I don't then she'll go in my wallet grab the money, or threaten to break stuff. So to keep calm I just pay for it and that's it. After that she feels much better for some reason.
She even insulted a family memeber of mine on facebook because I took them out to eat. And claims I never do anything for her. So when I offered her she would refuse and say I am selfish because it's what i want. We don't do anything I want always what she wants.
So what to do? Now she wants money from me to pay off her debt because she wants to save up money and buy a small house cash she said.
I just found a settlement agency I had no idea what this was at all. So I guess I can go see them any time and bring proof of things.
And hope for the best. I noticed every time I want to go to school, sign up and pay for the course or buy anything very expensive she won't let me do it. So I don't spend my money on myself but on her. I get her earrings expensive ones the ones she wants then she says she doesn't like it then does, then don't. It's WOW.
She got a winter coat a few years back then wants to take it from me while it's snowing outside and very cold. It's like I told her "look this is pushing it I can't go out in the snow when it's below 0 outside if you take my coat I'm calling the cops about this type of abuse" so she takes it then returns it an hour later. I mean I could of just got myself a cab go to the mall and buy another one. Any tshirts or coats I had in the past she ripped up and said it was ugly then buys me stuff then complains that I wear ugly things when she is the one who picked them out.
It's really hard and beyond depressing. I'll stop for now and thank you.
