Got tired of waiting game? Read this and have some change.....
It’s only when we realize and acknowledge that we are each 100% responsible for our happiness that we start to ‘notice’ the things that creates our unhappiness. Only when we fully accept responsibility for our own happiness will we start to eliminate the habits that sabotage our contentment and joy. They are habits that many of us have learned to justify as we often don’t want to see and accept that they are the cause of our unhappiness. Following are some habits of highly unhappy people.
Bad Judgement
Have you noticed when you judge another you lose your inner peace? And inner peace is the primary ingredient of authentic happiness. Not only do we learn to judge but close on the mental heals of our judgments often comes the sentence and the punishment! All together (judgment, sentence and punishment) they make up the package called ‘condemnation’ which is guaranteed happiness killer!
Criticizing
When we criticize it means we are attacking and somewhere ‘in there’ is usually anger albeit in a
milder form. And when you are angry you cannot be happy.
Complaining
It seems to be endemic in some cultures to complain. Complaining signals the presence of upset ness and therefore the absence of happiness.
Blaming
Projecting blame onto someone else is not only a happiness killer but usually a strategy to avoid
responsibility. It’s driven by the perfect combination of anger and fear and is therefore a painful cry that sounds like, “It’s all your fault”, but which, when decoded, really means, “I have just made my self very unhappy”!
Arguing
Trying to prove we are right, or attempting to make the other as right as us, is usually both a tense and grumpy affair. Neither side is happy in the process, and even if it seems one side has won, any happiness is short lived until the next opportunity to ‘be right’ is craved for and invoked! To argue is to tell the world that we prefer misery to merriment!
Trying to Control others
Attempting to make others dance to our tune is always an impossible task. Expecting the world to be and do as we would wish is an expectation too far. Both are demonstrations that we still believe others are responsible for our happiness.
The bottom line is "we are each responsible for our own unhappiness".
(Source: http://xa.yimg.com/kq/groups/16269676/9192494/name/Happiness+-+ways.rtf)
It’s only when we realize and acknowledge that we are each 100% responsible for our happiness that we start to ‘notice’ the things that creates our unhappiness. Only when we fully accept responsibility for our own happiness will we start to eliminate the habits that sabotage our contentment and joy. They are habits that many of us have learned to justify as we often don’t want to see and accept that they are the cause of our unhappiness. Following are some habits of highly unhappy people.
Bad Judgement
Have you noticed when you judge another you lose your inner peace? And inner peace is the primary ingredient of authentic happiness. Not only do we learn to judge but close on the mental heals of our judgments often comes the sentence and the punishment! All together (judgment, sentence and punishment) they make up the package called ‘condemnation’ which is guaranteed happiness killer!
Criticizing
When we criticize it means we are attacking and somewhere ‘in there’ is usually anger albeit in a
milder form. And when you are angry you cannot be happy.
Complaining
It seems to be endemic in some cultures to complain. Complaining signals the presence of upset ness and therefore the absence of happiness.
Blaming
Projecting blame onto someone else is not only a happiness killer but usually a strategy to avoid
responsibility. It’s driven by the perfect combination of anger and fear and is therefore a painful cry that sounds like, “It’s all your fault”, but which, when decoded, really means, “I have just made my self very unhappy”!
Arguing
Trying to prove we are right, or attempting to make the other as right as us, is usually both a tense and grumpy affair. Neither side is happy in the process, and even if it seems one side has won, any happiness is short lived until the next opportunity to ‘be right’ is craved for and invoked! To argue is to tell the world that we prefer misery to merriment!
Trying to Control others
Attempting to make others dance to our tune is always an impossible task. Expecting the world to be and do as we would wish is an expectation too far. Both are demonstrations that we still believe others are responsible for our happiness.
The bottom line is "we are each responsible for our own unhappiness".
(Source: http://xa.yimg.com/kq/groups/16269676/9192494/name/Happiness+-+ways.rtf)
