He has blocked your number and his family has blocked you as well. Please have some self esteem and move on. You don’t deserve someone who abandoned you without any information about where he lives, works and took your card. He has made it very clear that he is not coming back and you should not want him back since it seems as you were only used for your ability to qualify for immigration.
Fraud marriage
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Many Indians are under this feeling that whoever initiates divorce proceedings ends up losing. That is not true. Division of marital assets is governed by very specific laws, and most have no regards as to who initiated the proceedings. Ask your lawyer a lot of questions about how to proceed with a divorce.
Sorry to hear about the tough situation you are going through. It might be best if you get legal advice as soon as possible (a lawyer specializing in divorce cases rather then one who recommends private investigators).
If you have any joint assets, it’s better to seek legal help early then wait until the other party has used it all up or hidden it.
You mentioned you don’t have any family or friends here. It might be a good idea to find a local women’s support group that can provide you comfort during this tough transition. All the best.
I did seek a legal advice and the lawyer also said that there is nothing we can do because he can very easily prove that the marriage was genuine and if I want to file a case against him I must know where is he living to summon him to court which I clearly do not have any idea about, so I am stuck he is neither leaving me nor telling me what he wants.
To be blunt, he clearly HAS left you and told you what he wants by leaving and blocking you.
Get a family lawyer, move on and file for divorce.
Yeah that is the problem , my self esteem is not allowing me to accept that I got used by the hands of such spineless people and I want him to face repercussions because I am fine of him wanting to leave me but not after being used to solve his and his family purpose. I mean I am seeking something that these kind of people have their lessons learned for the rest of their lives.
There is no formal legal separation process in Canada. You are already separated. I'm not sure what you mean about summoning him. After one year of separation, you can apply for divorce even if you can't find him.
I'm not well aware of Canadian law on divorce and separation but other members have already provided inputs on that. As far as divorce goes seems like you can get it without your husband being present after one year.
Now I understand your feeling of teaching him and his family a lesson given you think they have used you to just get Canadian PR. In that case as others have pointed out you can't get his PR taken away. But you can probably go to family court and get your share in assets. If you plan to do so approach a lawyer and start gathering details of your assets.
Another way of teaching him and family a lesson is to publicly name and shame them. They may have blocked you but I'm sure there are tons of common friends where you can post and shame them. Issue would be given that you think they used you tells me they are much more shameless then you and they will hit back with allegations of their own and it will be a game of he said vs she said. Of you're determined think about it and discuss with common friends and proceed.
Also, in today's day and age it would be extremely difficult for him to completely vanish. Even if he has blocked you I think his social profiles would be active. You can ask any friend to figure out where he is working given he would be on LinkedIn etc.
My sincere apologies for being presumptuous but I really think if you wanted to locate him it should not be this difficult to locate and send summons which you want to send. I get a sense that you still have some hope at back of your head and you are reluctant to take that legal step as of yet. Again too many assumptions from my end so I apologise if none of this is true.
It is a hard time for you and we as strangers with our best intentions probably can't comprehend well enough what you are going through emotionally. All I can say is that you need really good friends right now and then whenever you can think hard and long how you want to proceed. Your next steps would become clearer after that.
After 3 years of marriage there likely won’t be any form of settlement or at least any large settlement. Mediation will likely save you both lots of money. Quick and simple divorce given you have no children and not a ton of assets will probably save you money and aggravation in the end.
Naming and shaming may be tempting but you will end up looking like the child in the end. Vent to your friends and family or write things down then burn the paper but stay away from social media. You will be the one who looks like the crazy person in the end not him. Break ups are hard and being taken advantage of in such a longterm way is very painful. You have now learned what to keep an eye out for and you will go into your next relationship and perhaps look for someone who already is Canadian or is not concerned with immigration. Perhaps dating for longer may also be a better option.
It can be understandable to be angry in your situation, however if you focus your energies on revenge it will make your transition in Canada much harder. Instead of focusing on employment, settlement, etc, all that negative emotional and mental energy will take a toll.
In Canada, we have what can be effectively termed “no fault” divorce. This means that a Court does not have to find one spouse or the other is at fault for the breakdown of the marriage. So although it may be “wrong” for your partner to abandon you, it is not “illegal” in any way and it is not a valid ground for divorce. The only ground for a divorce in Canada in the Divorce Act is “marriage breakdown”.
It is most common for a spouse to divorce based on having lived “separate and apart” with no reasonable prospect of reconciliation for at least one year. You do not need to establish that your spouse behaved badly in order to secure a divorce on the basis of a one-year separation. You do not have to track him down either.
Yes,you are right, I would focus on good things from now on.
Thank You so much.
Be thankful you don’t have children with him and you can move on to bigger and better things!