final distress call and my last attempt

[distressedpunjab]

1. I am anxious, distressed and in excruciating pain. I am married to a Canadian citizen of Indian origin since 2011. we filed an application for my immigration to Canada in 2011. It was kept pending due to some strikes at Canadian Embassies for around 10-11 months. Thereafter, it took another 7-8 months to go through the process and finally it got rejected in 2013 after I was interviewed at Delhi by a very rude and insensitive man with absolutely no courtesy. We opted to appeal against it rather than apply afresh. It took several months for the appeal to be processed and when finally I was interviewed on telephone by Minister's counsel in presence of my husband and judge, the file was again rejected stating the marriage is not genuine. Now it has been sent for judicial review but I have lost all hope and distressed to such a level that I have considered even terminating this life.
2. Some facts : Husband was a divorcee when I married him having a son who stays with her mother and he pays for his expenses.
No child till date because my in- laws think the child wont be have proper upbringing without father.
I am already 35 plus and my husband is almost 45.
3. Please help me with some guidance or confirm my anxiety that it is hopeless to pursue this case and I proceed with final option left with me.

 

[Ponga]

3. Before you do anything drastic (which sounds like it could be something very drastic), at least consider contacting a lawyer that might be able to help you.

This forum here is provided by a Montreal/Toronto law firm and they offer a free consultation:
http://www.canadavisa.com/get-legal-advice-options.html

Just find their phone number(s) at the bottom of the page.


Good luck!

 

[mikeymyke]

Having been refused twice already, it sounds like you either didnt adequately address their concerns about your marriage or didnt provide enough evidence to address their concerns. Most people who are refused the first time are able to succeed during the appeal.

Whats your relationship background like? There must be some major red flags if youve been refused twice. Also what evidences and testimony did u give to address their concerns?

 

[rambopg]

How many times did he visit you in India since 2011?

 

[irvah]

I am so sorry for what you were going through.
Losing the appeal usually means that the sponsor may no longer sponsor his/her spouse ever again unless a new fact arises in the file.
In your case you still have an option to re-apply. However, like I said, you could re-apply based on NEW facts only, for instance if your husband will move to India for a year or two to live with you.
It is a very tough step, but consequently you can prove that your marriage is genuine.

 

[canadianwoman]

The new facts that might make a reapplication successful are either the couple living together, the longer the better; or a child born to the couple. Very occasionally the fact that the relationship has continued beyond the refusals will be enough.

 

[flx2015]

i agree with Ponga and i think getting a lawyer from canadavisa would be a good option.

please don't do anything foolish unless you're absolutely and positively convinced that you're never going to have another good day in your life. if you ever feel like you're at the end of your rope, shoot me a private message and let's talk.

 

[distressedpunjab]

He visited me 3 times since 2011. I know my in-laws have not handled this case properly. He didnot visit me before my interview or during interview. All three visits were paid after interview at Delhi. Photographs, phone bills, skype records and money transfers were shown as testimonials. In this whole mess, it is me and my family that is suffering the most. It was an arranged marriage and for our family divorce is like end of life. I cannt get separated and I cannt continue my life in present state. It is getting disgraceful day by day.

 

[mikeymyke]

You still haven't told us though, how you addressed their concerns at the interview and appeal. Were you providing new evidence that your relationship is continuing and genuine? Or were you just providing the same evidence over and over? What reasons did they give for refusing you? How did you address those specific refusal reasons? Again, being refused twice seems to indicate that you're not addressing their concerns enough or providing old evidence.

 

[Aquakitty]

None of us know much about you but you sound like you are well-educated. Is there a chance you could immigrate on your own? Why are your in-laws controlling your life decisions? Ultimately you are responsible for how you handled this, not your in-laws.

I realise your cultural norms are different than what's common in the western world but is it really healthy to continue to think of divorce as the "end of your life"? There are billions of people on this planet, and billions just in India. Surely you can find someone else if it comes to it. It doesn't sound like this man you are married to has much interest in you coming to Canada, just based on what you've said.

 

[irvah]

I think you should place a request for GCMS notes to see all reasons for sponsorship rejection

http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/department/atip/requests-atip.asp

 

[lonelyguy]

I am sorry to hear about that situation.one issue others raized if your husband loves you, what do in laws have to do in controling your life?
For example now you should already have 1 or 2 years child with him, which should have changed the way officers see your case.
I know it's too hard for you because me I have been waiting for only one year and now feeling much depressed. so I don't imagine If I was to wait 4 years. either something bad would happen to me or I would have moved in another relationship, but this is no my point that I want focuss.on like others said order notes see what are the issues that are really holding your file.and take measures to address their concern and show them that they are wrong.
In all this what;s your husband reaction/position?