my charges are stayed ,, not sure what that means (but what i heard is like when i return ill need to deal with it again ) but again for that kinda charge u only get probation .or they drop charges...if they dont have evidance ..(in my case they dont )If you are charged with a crime, it never comes off. It will always appear during a search. Assault against your significant other is pretty serious. And if I’m not mistaken, your gf doesn’t get to determine if they charge you or not.