This thread is very relevant to me. I just ordered 100 photos from walmart for 16 dollars!!. that i intend to use on my interview. For those who dont know my story, I am an inland applicant. applied Januray and will be called for an interview. My file was transferred to my local office in nanaimo. After personally speaking with the interviewing officer today, she adviced me to gather all my evidence and appear with it during the interview. We didnt provide much with our application. im the sponsored.. We have been married for 8 years, have 3 kids 17,7 and 6 .
When you have been married for as long as i have, you never think that ten years later you will have to prove to a stranger life or death that you are genuine!..
It is soo soo hard to put together 10 years of a relationship!. i have our first e-mails, about 100 photos and possibly more to come a 35 year mortgage together. two cars in both names,
the photos are variously grouped. me with his family, him with my family. ten wedding photos!. (we only took ten!). small wedding small reception 8 to10 people it was quick and short.
Letter from his mother stating we have been living together as husband and wife in a l;oving relationship in their apartment for 8.5 years (she knows best because she err meddled! LOL) her wdding ift to us which came later because at first she didnt approve of the wedding... .
Pictures of her endless gifts to us. Cards she sent me for my birthday and wedding anniversaries,.
it is so hard to remember every single thing! there are periods i dont have a thing and not because i wasnt living with him but life catches up, kids school etc!..cards and cards, DH buys me really expensive gifts and he keeps all receipts. so he will provide them. In every receipt he wrote "to my darling wife" pictures of him with my friends. A few pictures of us. Pictures of the kids and him in hospital when each were born,
in total, Just the pictures amount to 100 . These ewill possibly increase as days go by!. Walmart is soo cheap so i dont care if those we dont get back because . Lots of joint bills, Life insurance stating me as his sole beneficiary, gifts to our kids where we wrote. "mommy and daddy love you very much"
even the childrens bibles we bough them for their first birthdays and pictures of me and dh giving them (tear)
Letters.. From his mother, from my mother, from his father, From his sister who is also my kids god mother , My best maid at our wedding. and his bestman. with signatures which they can compare because they also signed the marriage certificates!!, letters from his aunty who hosted the wedding venue and reception, All these letters are handwritten with copies of i.d, signed, dated and with phone numbers and email adresses!,
Do you know why i am going into so much detail??. because i have been married for 8 years!, have three kids, have many years of history, And when today i went to see the IO, She told me we didnt have sufficient evidence!,. I will tear the A** out of the evidence. I will give them so much evidence they will say stop!. ten years is a long long time. I can accumulate alot!. many people know us!. i can get letters from all this people. I will not leave even one stone unturned. dont wanna say. " i wish i sent this" or "I wish i sent that"
This is not a job interview. SOmeone is making a decision on my life. they choose for me to prove it?, I will prove it. Heck my husband and i will even sum it up and make love in their presence if it has to come to that. We have been together at the hip for ten years. we have never been apart in those ten years even for a day. Every stamp in our passports and kids passports are in synch for ten continuos years. Date, time and place.
As i write this it breaks my heart to even think that i may asked to leave. it will break my kids hearts, My husbands hearts. it is sad that someone else will question such a strong loving family who i wake up for.. breathe for . love deeply. would die for . It will break my heart into 10 million pieces. Unlike other people onthis forum who are ok with leaving, i have a big family and cant just "apply outland" without damaging four other peoples hearts.
I will accumulate as much as i can for every month if possible for all ten years.
Oops sorry for this long thread hahaha. I got a little carried away there!..
But yeah thats just to sum up what i am accumulating for the interview