So, i got nikkafied in pakistan in May 2013 Last year, there was no ruksati done and I left 2 days after the nikkah, we didnt get to spend any time. Although there was no ruksati done, we did portray a ruksati for immigration purposes, by having a big reception with lots of people and showed ruksati ceremony at the end and taking to thier house, there are lots of pictures BUT its been a year and I havent done the forms yet because I do NOT wish to apply for my husband. Its a messed up story, it happened quick due to family pressure and I dont like him. I dont know what to do now. I cant get out of it just like that because parents wont listen and are making me fill out the forms. My only option now is to somehow get this visa rejected. How do i do that? What are my options and how can i get out of this? please give suggestions !
Dont wish to sponser spouse from pakistan: in big trouble : HELP !
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mikeymyke
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Cancelling sponsorship is very easy. Just call CIC up and tell them you want to cancel sponsorship.
Yes but if i do that, my parents and my spouse will find out that i cancelled the sponsership and i will get in huge trouble. I want it to get rejected so i can say oh it got rejected i cant do anything about it. I was wondering if theres a way i can talk to cic and let them know this is the situation so i want the visa rejected or mess up the application somehow..
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mikeymyke
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Well you're doing the right thing by cancelling sponsorship. As for your parents, just say "I will not stand up for marriage fraud", and just move on. You're a grown adult living in a free society like Canada, do what you feel.
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I think from the first day that you were not interested in him, you should have just say NO to your parents cause by doing your parents a favour by saying yes I will marry him but keep in mind what is the poor guys fault and even now just stand up and tell your parents the truth and cancel his sponsorship cause I have seen a friend of mine like this and now they were never happy also they have a kid as well but again if they are not happy with each other guess what happened then DIVORCE, now I feel sorry for their kid so be brave and their is no point of lie just tell your parents straight up and cancel the sponsorship process.Princess_123 said:
So assuming somehow you get rejected for sponsorship then what ?
You do realize you are the root of the problem, not anyone else in this whole thing. You didn't want to marry this guy, but you did, now he is hoping to be with you and you are scheming here to get his visa rejected.
Still don't have the guts to man up to either end it or work it through.
Even if somehow your low blow tactics work, I'm sure the same parents who are asking you to file the application will come to know about appeal courts and very likely hire an immigration consultant who will charge $3000 for something that you don't even want.
Grow a pair, don't put 2 families through this.
You do realize you are the root of the problem, not anyone else in this whole thing. You didn't want to marry this guy, but you did, now he is hoping to be with you and you are scheming here to get his visa rejected.
Still don't have the guts to man up to either end it or work it through.
Even if somehow your low blow tactics work, I'm sure the same parents who are asking you to file the application will come to know about appeal courts and very likely hire an immigration consultant who will charge $3000 for something that you don't even want.
Grow a pair, don't put 2 families through this.
i dont want to do this at all. Im not the kind of person who would ever want to put anyone, my family and myself through this but now im in this situation and i dont want it to get worse after thats why i want to put an end to this now. If it gets rejected im sure my parents wont keep trying, itll end there i believe and i think that would be for the best for everyone. I know that this is making me look bad to most people, but really Im not a bad person, i just got stuck in a bad situation and i believe that if I end this by doing this, itll benefit everyone more.
If the visa is rejected then that will lead to no ruksati meaning the marriage will have to end then.fizz1234 said:
Just a though, have you considered talking to the guy - like 2 matured ppl? If the guy disregards it and basically only wants to come here then the whole thing was doomed to begin with
No I don't and I see your point, they won't do that. but our relationship isn't genuine, we haven't spent time together, we don't talk much like married couples do, it's just messed up. Only nikkah is done, and that usually results in applications being denied right?canuck_in_uk said:
yes I have tried talking about it, and neither him nor their family and my family are willing to listen and end this because of the concept of family honour and all that in pakistan. They are not willing to listen. If they were, I wouldn't be here righ tnow
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So assuming he get pr and some how go on welfare are your parent willing to be on the hook for 3 years? Are you a minor or what ? I can't believe anyone will agree to do things like this in this 21st century just to please their parents . Maybe the best thing you should have done at the beginning is send less of everything . Few communication and relationship prove , three pictures etc . Did your husband know it was all for pr ? Best thing to do is what forum members are saying . Cancel the application if your husby does not have a uci number maybe he might not find out .