No according to CIC, Canada Post kept returning it undeliverable despite us living at the same address that CIC has on record.
On-hold, fine call it 'lonely' if that makes you happy, it doesn't change how I felt, I'm not excusing my behaviour, never have, indeed I admit what happened and realised my mistake. After 5 years you'd think there would be some level of trust in our marriage especially after having 2 further children and choosing to emigrate together. My wife shares marriage secrets all the time with her friends, the second I come to share the same with my friends and I'm the bad person, no offence but how is a dual standard fair?
Canada Post meanwhile if the CIC are telling the truth did return our mail undeliverable, how is that blaming them? I'm merely accepting CIC's report of events that led to the delay. I'm also not blaming Canada's qualification system, I wish that my education beyond school counted for more than what Canada sees as school but it doesn't, which sadly does affect my employment opportunities in this increasingly computerised society where a computer program analyses your resume before a person even sees it. I know from working at the airport that when I first started there compared to when I left the quality of people we were hiring had fallen and this was primarily due to a system whereby we no longer recruited personnel, personally, instead leaving a large portion of the hiring to a computerised system.
Compartmentalization meanwhile means that rather than dealing with an issue when it arises, this doesn't have to be between me and her, it can be something small and trivial, my wife puts it in a box to deal with later but never does, she hides from things rather than dealing with them before they become a problem and once they have she doesn't know what to do so puts them back in a box to again "deal with later".
I've always been better friends with women than men, don't ask me why but I find them easier to get on with yet by the same token I've always been terrible at finding the courage to ask them out - not an issue now that I'm married and like I said while I did make a mistake I realised and accepted the error in judgement I made and it's not something I intend to repeat. I have no trouble with boundaries, the problem was it seems of nervousness and jealousy, nervous that I was going to repeat what happened 5 years ago, and jealous that someone who happened to be female was asking me to help her out fitting an AC unit in her home.
I know what I did was unforgivable but there surely has to be a point in your life where the past becomes the past, where you try to move forwards and where you try to realise that person you are with is still with you for a reason. I do love her, I've given up a lot more than you'll ever know to be with her and I continue to do so on a daily basis just to try and keep her happy, because that's all I want to see. I miss my wife smiling and being happy. I think your last sentence sums up what is probably going to happen sadly, I say sadly as I don't think my wife is giving us much hope.
CanadianJeepGuy, with Cop you actually hit the nail on the head, once I get my PR I want to sign up and I also want to join the Canadian Air Force Reserve. I always wanted to serve in the RAF but then I met my wife, got married and had our daughter and out of respect for her wishes at the time that dream went down the proverbial pan but ignoring everything that is happening I think I'm at a point in my life where I want to serve, to defend the people and country that I have come to love the same as my father, uncle, grandfather, great grandfather, etc. did. I miss working at the airport but the nearest airports London/Toronto are 3 hours away and I've got no interest in a 6 hour commute lol.
