CIC get a life man ..

[gsize]

appreciate your comments.

thank you.

you are very lucky that you are with your spouse waiting it out. Try living apart for years dealing with them.

 

[gsize]

unless I missed something, marriage breakdown is nothing new......it happens all the time.

 

[Sarim]

Yes absolutely. Well said. There is one poor forum member who sponsored her husband from Cuba. It was denied so she appealed and after several years she was finally successful. Husband comes, gets PR, and abandons her shortly after (he was sponsored before Condition 51) and wants nothing to do with her. They were together for 11 YEARS. 11!

hang him

 

[keesio]

It beyond my mind, how evil some people are. That guy literally wasted 11 years from her life, I really hope karma will bite him ......

It is a really sad story:
http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/-t250059.0.html

 

[sulemanmirza]

Having a relation with your significant other for 5 years , relation in which spending every second or minute talking and with each other. and then a year gap, when I came to Canada in feb 2013 and then went back for marriage in feb 2014, and saw her after a year for 20 days then came back, and then went again for 30 days last year. So in total only 50 days of marriage but on paper 1.5 years. Yes this is agony. All we are going through is the hardest parts of our lives, which would leave a deep impact on our family for a long time.

Specially when now she is 7 months pregnant I have provided them all the proofs I could I am still in a limbo, where my child would be born, I am done with the checks just waiting for decision made and PPR. But if they don't provide that in a month, I am stuck with more wait for the child to be born and added. , This is agony my friend. Living with your wife and complaining about the system is not sympathetic at all...

 

[Mariac819]

You lost my sympathy there. Nothing irritates me more than people complaining about the spousal process when they're living with their spouse.

This process is just as stressful for those who are with their spouses and those who aren't. My husband and I were long distance for 5 years so I KNOW what its like to be apart. However, I also know what its like to suffer waiting with your life in complete limbo. So I think you telling this person to get a life is very rude.

 

[bigredmoose]

This process is just as stressful for those who are with their spouses and those who aren't. My husband and I were long distance for 5 years so I KNOW what its like to be apart. However, I also know what its like to suffer waiting with your life in complete limbo. So I think you telling this person to get a life is very rude.

I accept that. I just have zero patience for people who are with their spouses coming here to complain.

 

[kettle]

I accept that. I just have zero patience for people who are with their spouses coming here to complain.

We all make choices to be with our spouses or not during the process. You have zero insight into what their circumstances are and why he is able to or chose to live with his spouse.

You are choosing not to be with your spouse, no matter how you slice it. Employment, housing etc can all be interrupted. In most cases its not idea, so we choose to stay separated because usually it is the most logical and financially responsible thing to do.

Don't begrudge someone for their personal choices, as I've said you have no idea how much thought and planning went into those choices. Just because they are together physically doesn't mean their lives are on any less of a hold than yours, or mine or anyone elses here.

 

[bigredmoose]

I get all that. I'm well aware that we've all made choices to be where we're at. You could even throw that argument in the OP's face; he chose to marry a foreigner. Find a nice local girl and you'll have no reason to be angry at the CIC.

I understand the OP's frustration but complaining about the wait while being with your spouse is like rubbing salt in a wound for those that aren't with their spouses, or worse, those whose applications have been rejected and now face years of expensive appeals.

I say again to the OP: I have no sympathy for you. I may change my tune on the very first day I get to live with my wife as a proper married couple, as he has been doing.

 

[Sarim]

I get all that. I'm well aware that we've all made choices to be where we're at. You could even throw that argument in the OP's face; he chose to marry a foreigner. Find a nice local girl and you'll have no reason to be angry at the CIC.

I understand the OP's frustration but complaining about the wait while being with your spouse is like rubbing salt in a wound for those that aren't with their spouses, or worse, those whose applications have been rejected and now face years of expensive appeals.

I say again to the OP: I have no sympathy for you. I may change my tune on the very first day I get to live with my wife as a proper married couple, as he has been doing.

that was my opinion and i shared with all.. you agreed or not that's not my business.. further i don't need any one sympathy i am happy to live with my wife whether here or in Canada.. I have choices ..

 

[Sarim]

This process is just as stressful for those who are with their spouses and those who aren't. My husband and I were long distance for 5 years so I KNOW what its like to be apart. However, I also know what its like to suffer waiting with your life in complete limbo. So I think you telling this person to get a life is very rude.

Maria doesn't matter he/she is frustrated...

 

[Sarim]

Having a relation with your significant other for 5 years , relation in which spending every second or minute talking and with each other. and then a year gap, when I came to Canada in feb 2013 and then went back for marriage in feb 2014, and saw her after a year for 20 days then came back, and then went again for 30 days last year. So in total only 50 days of marriage but on paper 1.5 years. Yes this is agony. All we are going through is the hardest parts of our lives, which would leave a deep impact on our family for a long time.

Specially when now she is 7 months pregnant I have provided them all the proofs I could I am still in a limbo, where my child would be born, I am done with the checks just waiting for decision made and PPR. But if they don't provide that in a month, I am stuck with more wait for the child to be born and added. , This is agony my friend. Living with your wife and complaining about the system is not sympathetic at all...

Suleman i have choices and i avail best option to living with her during process..and i am not talk about my case i am talk about general cases who are in trouble during process whether living with spouse or not..

 

[Can baby]

We all make choices to be with our spouses or not during the process. You have zero insight into what their circumstances are and why he is able to or chose to live with his spouse.

You are choosing not to be with your spouse, no matter how you slice it. Employment, housing etc can all be interrupted. In most cases its not idea, so we choose to stay separated because usually it is the most logical and financially responsible thing to do.

Don't begrudge someone for their personal choices, as I've said you have no idea how much thought and planning went into those choices. Just because they are together physically doesn't mean their lives are on any less of a hold than yours, or mine or anyone elses here.

Not always the case, as much as I would have loved to be with my husband during this process, it was impossible. Not because of work/financial situation,but because of our son who was recently born. So in this case, there was no way that I would have applied outside of Canada to sponsor my husband, as there would be no way that I would have had our child to be born outside of Canada, as it would mean that I would have not been able to return to Canada without a visa for my son or without sponsoring my son which would be a whole other headache. I haven't seen my husband since September of last year and won't be seeing him until he can come in November.

So, it is not always a choice. At the same time, the process is hard regardless of the circumstance. It's unfortunate that it is this way, but it is how it is.... All you can do is have a little faith that all will work out with time... Just my take on the whole thing.

 

[SenoritaBella]

I hear you all. It is a hard process and there are certain challenges unique to each group. For outland spouses, the problem is further compounded by the fact that a subgroup of spouses need a visa to visit. This is the case for me, but we were denied. I have a great job and quitting does not make sense because when approved, we would need to move back and I'm not so sure it would be easy to find something as good. If I had my way, I would rather have my spouse living here with me as we wait it out. At least we can carry out the plans we have.

I read the appeals thread often and it saddens my heart. It takes 2 yrs in some cases before a hearing which takes a toll on the relationship. But with the gov't having made cuts to staff a few years ago, what more can officers do?

 

[Mariac819]

I get all that. I'm well aware that we've all made choices to be where we're at. You could even throw that argument in the OP's face; he chose to marry a foreigner. Find a nice local girl and you'll have no reason to be angry at the CIC.

"chose to marry a foreigner" ... we can't chose who we love. If its a choice then its probably for the wrong reasons