Boyfriend want to come to Canada and has unsupportive parents.

[misterz100]

Hello, I am Canadian and my boyfriend lives in the USA, his parents are against same sex marriage and give him a hard time, he wants to come with his belongings and move to Canada and live with me, either by marriage or Common law, we would prefer common law but marriage is also an option.
He has many things to bring and the only option would be to go get him, I don't think the border would take kindly to seeing all the stuff he would bring. is there anything I can do??

 

[canadianwoman]

He cannot show up at the border with all of his stuff and be allowed to move in. He has to be clear at the border that he is just visiting you.

If you try to bring his things into Canada, you will be charged duty. It is only if you have been a non-resident of Canada for some time that you can bring your household goods acquired abroad into Canada duty-free.

He could also try to get a job in Canada. Then he would be allowed to bring his things with him. Depending on his qualifications, this may or may not be realistic.

If he comes to visit you, you could get married and then apply to sponsor him right away. Or he could visit you, stay 6 months, apply to have his visitor status extended, and then once you have lived together for 12 months you can apply to sponsor him as your common-law spouse. If you do that, be sure to get evidence covering all 12 months that you are living together.

 

[Mapleson]

What happened to your 21-year old American husband?

 

[misterz100]

uhhh figured this might come up...

TL DR he got tired of waiting for immigration and got himself another boyfriend close to where he lived... When he got his confirmation of PR in April he couldn't decide between us... then the day the USA legalized same sex marriage he told me it was over.... I wont make the same mistake, I been very close to this guy for a while now and I will have him move with me asap instead of waiting for any kind of PR, fucking government all this bullshit killed my marriage...

I feel extremely embarrassed that this happened to me, I had no control over it.. at least he never activated the PR.. so I swallow my pride and move on... :'(

 

[scylla]

Sorry things didn't work out with your first spouse.

Given this history, I would wait until next year before submitting a sponsorship application to sponsor your new partner. CIC retains old application information in their systems and will immediately know about your past application. If you submit a new sponsorship application so soon after your old relationship has broken up, your application will likely experience long processing times since CIC may be concerned this is a marriage / relationship of convenience. I would wait until you have time to build your evidence with your new partner - and for time to pass since your old relationship ended.

 

[misterz100]

Thanks, I'm planning to have him over and going the common law route, this will give us time to built, but in person, so the distance and time doesn't rip us apart like so many like me.

 

[Rob_TO]

TL DR he got tired of waiting for immigration and got himself another boyfriend close to where he lived... When he got his confirmation of PR in April he couldn't decide between us... then the day the USA legalized same sex marriage he told me it was over.... I wont make the same mistake, I been very close to this guy for a while now and I will have him move with me asap instead of waiting for any kind of PR, *censored word*ing government all this bull*censored word* killed my marriage...

You applied around July 2014, and had COPR in hand by April 2015. That is around 9 months total processing time beginning to end, not to mention you indicate he already had a new boyfriend well before he got his COPR.

That is pretty quick processing time. I really wouldn't blame the government for killing your marriage, to be honest it sounds like it wasn't that strong to begin with as many people go through far longer times apart while waiting for PR and still remain strongly committed to each other.

Thanks, I'm planning to have him over and going the common law route, this will give us time to built, but in person, so the distance and time doesn't rip us apart like so many like me.

Keep in mind if he comes to Canada as a visitor and keeps extending his visitor status here to reach the 12 months of cohabitation required for common-law, he will be unable to work during that time. The only ways he could legally work here during this time are:
1. If he qualifies for and gets a job offer that qualifies under NAFTA
2. If he gets a closed work permit for a company that successfully goes through LMIA process for him
3. If a recent grad, can look at the SWAP program for US citizens to get working holiday in Canada

 

[Mapleson]

I asked because to go the marriage route, you would have to wait a year after being separated from your husband to get a divorce (unless you go for an annulment). Your first post was 3 days after your husband told you it was over, so either you are moving very quickly with your new boyfriend, or there was some overlap on your part as well.

I'm not trying to be judgmental, only that CIC will examine your case more due to the speed the first relationship deteriorated after PR was approved.

 

[scylla]

I asked because to go the marriage route, you would have to wait a year after being separated from your husband to get a divorce (unless you go for an annulment). Your first post was 3 days after your husband told you it was over, so either you are moving very quickly with your new boyfriend, or there was some overlap on your part as well.

I'm not trying to be judgmental, only that CIC will examine your case more due to the speed the first relationship deteriorated after PR was approved.

Agreed. I was debating whether to post this or not earlier. As part of the process of preparing your application, make sure you look at your history from the eyes of a stranger and consider how things may look to someone on the outside looking in. Because this is how CIC will look at your application and relationship - and if something seems off to them, you may end up waiting a very long time for processing to complete. Agreed that entering into a new relationship so quickly after the collapse of your marriage may trigger questions about the genuiness of your new relationship. You should be prepared to address any potential concerns proactively in your application.

 

[misterz100]

Thank you very much for the input, and I agree 100% it dose look bad, but my ex husband been drifting away for months before he wanted divorce, something like... changed in him he hasn't been himself at all in the last 6 months, he even tossed away all his friends he made that had any connection to me... I always had something for my new boyfriend since I met him a while ago but I only ever kept him as a close friend since I was married, never meeting him or anything yet.

In my opinion I don't think the relationship can be viewed as non genuine, he never activated his PR and was completely loyal to me for months even after I applied for the sponsorship. Regardless all your views are correct I have to look at this from a stranger's perspective.

Thank you very much for the input and opinions I really had to hear them. I wont rush this thing and take my time, I don't mind him not working if he comes.