islandgirl25 said:
another question, how detailed should the "proof" be? we have tons of pics..should we send them all in? hundreds of emails...literally thousands of pages worth of chatting..should we go all out?
How much proof you need depends on the visa office processing your application (some are a lot more suspicious than others), and on your relationship. A normal relationship needs less proof; if there are a lot of things in your relationship that seem unusual, you need more. Basically, the two of you having different races, religions, languages, ages, relationship backgrounds, ethnic backgrounds: all are 'red flags'.
For a basic application with few red flags, but some problems (such as yours, having been staying illegally in the USA), I would send in at least 100 photos from the whole length of your relationship, showing the two of you with each other's friends and family, and including some candid shots that don't look posed; send in a screenshot of your inboxes showing all the emails you have sent each other, and then choose a selection of emails to print out and include - some people pick one a week from their whole relationship, others choose emails that show them discussing important parts of their relationship, or very romantic emails; send in a selection of your chats, again chosen from the whole length of your relationship.
Then add a note telling the visa officer that you have sent in just a sampling of your emails and chatting, but that you have much more if he/she wants to see it. It is unusual for them to ask to see more, but at least this way they know you have more.
Photos are considered better evidence than emails or chats, by the way.