confusednscared,
you are being quite helpful actually. Thanks.
Before this year, I had had almost no experience with any of type of bureaucracy. I am only 22, and my parents have always dealt with immigration, government, taxes, moving, and such. So, all this is/was new to me. I have learned a lot however, and I feel that I will be learning a lot more, and from my mistakes too. And yes, I won't want to do them again!
I am with my husband now in Jakarta, and the refusal letter is back in Canada. I can't look at it now, but I don't recall them telling us anything specific. Upon receiving the letter, we were extremely stressed out, so maybe some of my memories have gotten lost in it all! I am pretty sure no one had given us any procedure to follow though.
I agree with you, we just need to take things step by step for now, as that is the best thing we can do!
Thanks once again!