Beaverdiva said:
It's what works out best for you both at the end of the day. Being apart is horrible but definitely worth considering in my opinion. Only you can decide how soon you want to settle in Canada but bear in mind that if you apply ahead of 2018 and it IS processed quickly there's a deadline given to land as a PR so you/your partner need to be ready because CIC won't extend the deadline.
Hope that's given you something to consider
Hi beaverdiva,
Thanks for all of your input. It's nice to hear of some positive stories from those who have been through this process. And congrats on being granted your PR status.
I've actually never been keen on having a formal wedding or reception, whether my spouse be Canadian or otherwise. But I feel for the sake of our future in Canada, we probably should have one, so it doesn't appear to be a marriage of convenience. We have loads of photos together from the last few years, photos of us with my partner's family in Malaysia and mine in Canada, evidence of travels taken together, etc etc, but I'm still paranoid the CIC could suspect it was a marriage of convenience without a formal ceremony, as we wouldn't have a good reason for an intimate and private ceremony as you did, aside from my statement that I had never been interested in having a wedding period!
I just realised I got our timeline wrong. I'm currently waiting for approval of a new contract for my project and while not yet official, it would likely end in the fall of 2017, not 2018. Huge difference! Anyhow, in this case, I think we'd apply in early 2017 and hope that the visa will come through within 5-6 months, as yours did, and we could depart for Canada together.
I followed your earlier advice and printed out all of the guides, checklists and IMMI forms. Wow, just wow. It's enough to keep us busy over the next year! I already have a zillion questions based on these forms, but I'll try to seek out the answers on previous threads before starting a new one.