Anybody from Nova Scotia That sponsored husband from Tunisia

[cher43]

Hi Fall247
We met online on Nov 20 2011
we chatted for 4 months before he ask me to go to Tunisia i went in june and we got married came home and waited for my husband to get all his stuff together sent in feb they approved in may he got his interview nov 7 denied nov 28 he got his letter we chat every single day on msn my skype does not work well for us his mom even sends me gifts his father calls me the princess of the family lol i am so close to his mom and sisters i love them alll even his brothers all his neighbours come to see me on cam to i hope this helps u

 

[fall247]

You know, many people, including some of the people on these forums believe that short courtships are signs of marriages of convenience. When I read your timelines I see similarities in my own situation and it hurts. For some reason, people feel that it is uncommon for a person to meet online, fall in love and get married. It happens with people that live in the same country all of the time and nobody makes a peep about it. I have an inland application in progress. I met my husband online and two months later flew over 30 hours to spend last Christmas with him. I didn't have alot of vacation time so was only able to spend a minimal amount of time in his country but they were the best days of my life and I didn't want to leave him. The next several weeks were torment. Racing home from work to see him on Skype. Calling each other and keeping the phone calls brief as not to rack up a huge phone bill. He came to visit me in late January of this year and we decided to marry in February. We extended his visitor status and he has been with me ever since while we wait on this inland application which was transferred before AIP. I am lucky enough to have my husband living with me but he is going crazy not being able to work and the bizarre thing is his regular line of work is a job that Canadians are lacking in number and he has had multiple job offers that he cannot follow through with because his line of work requires cross border driving. His application is sitting in a local CIC, envelope unopened. I honestly do not care if they turn it down. I want a decision so that we can start our life here or start the process for me to immigrate to his country. Either way, it matters not.

 

[cher43]

Well guess that don't believe in true love so be it .well you sound like you guys are in a good place your husband is here thats great am sure all will work out for you we will keep intouch so i know all is ok with you . was it hard to get him a visitors visa?

 

[fall247]

Hi Cher, no it wasn't hard at all but that is because he is from a visa exempt country. He just had to tell them at the border where he was going and how long. He was pulled aside because his return ticket was for 6 months but I was having shoulder surgery and his original plan was to have an extended stay until I could manage on my own and then return home, however we got married and decided to do an inland application. Once they knew he was coming to help me there wasn't an issue. My husband has a house, car, job and beautiful country to return to at any time which makes the situation easier to deal with if his sponsorship is turned down here. The only thing is I will have to sell everything I have here and leave my job of 30 years prior to my earliest retirement date which is in four and a half years from now. What are you going to do?

 

[cher43]

Your story is alot like mine i had shoulder surgery to and thats why i could not go back to tunisia i was off work from sept 2011 to march 2012 i was in physio 5 days a week the lady who interviewed my husband said ur wife should have come back he said she couldn't she had surgery and physio she said to him but she could do physio here in tunis lol my god how stupid is she ..so we will do appeal and pray it works than after that not sure and you?

 

[fall247]

Hi Cher,

I feel at a loss not being able to speed up the process. I ordered FOSS notes and there was absolutely no indication of any red flags although I know why the file was transferred. There was only the date that the file arrived at the local office and a note indicating that the file was ready for service commitment. So I guess it must be top secret. The biggest issue is that my husband feels bad about not being able to work and bring money in, plus he is going a little stir crazy with little to do around the house. It was ok when I was off work for two months but I recovered so well from my surgery that I didn't even need physiotherapy. I just spoke to my parents this morning and they are going to get him involved on Wednesday and Thursday afternoons in their seniors card games and bowling league. He says he doesn't care if they are seniors or not, he will get exercise and be able to socialize, that's all that matters. Plus it will take his mind off the wait. If the sponsorship is turned down an appeal is out. It just means I have to bite the bullet and do what I have to do to go home with him. I have animals I will have to find good homes for and sell both my properties and my car and quit my job of 32 years but he has visitor status until July of 2013 so he can help me with it. The job he has in his country pays more than enough for the two of us to settle and we have a house to live in and a car. We just want to stay together. I have no interest in living apart from him. Where in Nova Scotia do you live. A friend of mine who died recently is from there but for the life of me I can't recall the name of the place, it's not Glace Bay, anyway I know the McNeil's from Glace Bay and he is MacLeod.

 

[cher43]

Hi fall wow your story is so touching i will pray everyday for you and your hubby . I live in the Halifax area why will a appeal be out? I can only imagine your husband going stir crazy it must be hard but tell him good things come to those who wait and i am praying that goes for all here that are in same boat . my daughter was looking forward to My husband coming here she said mom its time you you need someone so you are not alone . she is 23 and a wonderful daughter my friends all love him to they have via web cam with him they think he is such a nice honest person . i think he was to honest in his interview waiting for the appeal papers is killing me to . i hope getting out playing cards with your family will help him and i am sure he will get to stay

 

[fall247]

Hi Cher, I enjoy talking to you because your heart is in the right place. Sometimes good people have to work a bit harder to get what they want. I think because we are being gifted with the learning experience. Lord knows I have had my share of "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". Believe me Cher, my husband has got the best woman he will ever have and I have the best husband I will ever have. Although raised at separate ends of the world he and I are so much alike.

He won't go through an appeal and I won't ask him to because it is not necessary and he needs to go to work. I am quite willing to move to his country I just don't really want to do it so soon if I don't have to.

Cher, I have a life that most people dream about. I have a wonderful family, excellent friends, a great job, financial stability, and to add to all of that this beautiful man that God gifted me with that I am so so proud of. I really feel like a lottery winner.

I won't let anything stand in my way of my happiness especially after waiting almost 50 years for it. Ten years ago I may have said ok I will appeal but I am feeling so good about myself right now and probably look 10-15 years younger than my stated age. An appeal would drain the life from me. I am not up for challenges at this age.

 

[cher43]

Hi Fall
I understand you totally .I can see you both love each other so much and i am sure things are going to all fall inplace for you how can they not you have been living together and sharing your life My husband just sent me email telling me he wants me to move there .i will if appeal does not work
i just talk to a lawyer he said that its a hard road but if u get a good lawyer can help he said you need someone there to fight for you because the minster of immigration sends his lawyer to fight you in court i am so scared its making me sick i can't eat or sleep . I know the age difference is going to be a big thin but he is such a old soul and such a free mentality he is so much like a canadian . your husband sounds like he is a super nice guy hold on him Fall and never let him go!!!!

 

[fall247]

Hi Cher, do you mind me asking you how much older your husband is? I sponsored my previous husband and he was significantly younger than me. I am surprised that we were never interviewed however he lived in Canada and his family lived here which made the difference. It was a short courtship and quick marriage the same as now and we were married for nine years until his unexpected death.

Right now I am finding things for my husband to do to keep him physically busy and his mind occupied. I need to be the pillar of strength and it is getting harder by the day. I need to hide emotion and can't talk about this sponsorship with him because we both get worked up about it. Keeping busy is the key. I am actually pretty grateful it is Christmastime because there is so much planning.

I didn't use the computer at all this weekend which is a good thing. I wish I could stay away from it for the next couple of months but it is so hard.

What is your husband's country like. I am sorry, I am not familiar with it. Would it be a place you would be happy living in?

 

[cher43]

Hi Fall
There is 20 yr age difference But it works so well because he has a old soul and i feel younger than my age . If i thought for 1 min that he was using me i would run . but when i was there he buys me things all the time and he sends me things .i love his country and i love the ppl from there he is from Tunisia not a rich country but ppl are very close .i am so close to his mom she has been teaching me online how to cook tunisian food . I am feeling like somebody has jinked me . I am not a rich woman but i get by now i have to find the money to do all this appeal i prayed to gods it works so we can live here with my family and i can stay at my job .

 

[fall247]

Hi Cher,

There are lots of people with that same age difference - 20 years isn't that significant. Men are at a good maturity level when they are older. Some men would rather have a younger woman because the ones their own age often give up on taking care of themselves and become disinterested in intimacy. Older men are also at the level of settling down and are generally over their party and promiscuous years. This type of relationship usually works out quite well and isn't that unusual. I just don't understand why the CIC can't just let us accept our own fate when it comes to sponsorship.

 

[Habibti]

Hi Fall
There is 20 yr age difference But it works so well because he has a old soul and i feel younger than my age . If i thought for 1 min that he was using me i would run . but when i was there he buys me things all the time and he sends me things .i love his country and i love the ppl from there he is from Tunisia not a rich country but ppl are very close .i am so close to his mom she has been teaching me online how to cook tunisian food . I am feeling like somebody has jinked me . I am not a rich woman but i get by now i have to find the money to do all this appeal i prayed to gods it works so we can live here with my family and i can stay at my job .

That is why my husband got denied visa. I am 20 years older than him. Thanks God we won the appeal this summer and should be here sometime early winter. All the best!

 

[fall247]

I appreciate you mentioning that, Cher will be very happy to hear it.

 

[wongchild]

I am 14 years older then my partner but he is so mature for 26. My son's dad is 11 years younger than me and it did not work out and it was not about the age. I find that the harsh Albanian culture has made my partner grow up so fast, especially when he has been on his own since he was 12. So.. moral of the story, age does not make a difference when it comes to true love. Wishing you all the best....

xoxoxo Brenda