Am feeling so bad!!!!

[michaelab]

I know they probably wonder why he couldn't remember the basic informations. However, I must say some people are just not good at remembering the others' birthdays and the details. My husband couldn't remeber my birthday for the first year that we were together..and on top of that he also couldn't remember his oldest son's birth year...and his daugheter's birthdate (he remembered the year but not day she was born!) At first I was like why couldn't he remember such important dates and such but some people just have a harder time remembering them! I bet anything if I ask my husband now where I was born and such he won't be able to answer it.

Its much harder to remember those events especially when they have to live apart for so long prior to their marriage and even after...I am sure your husband isn't the first person not to remember those details and won't be the last one either. I am sorry that it didn't go as he hoped for and I understand how disappointed he feels.

 

[Mrs. Turan]

Thank you TGChi. You're very sweet to be so compassionate. And I know all of you here are going through so much too. It's very difficult to be apart from your spouse and to have stability in your lives. I'm up and down emotionally. Work is a good distraction but it doesn't replace a real touch. I miss holding his hand. I feel terrible waking up alone every day. I hope for the best for all of you. I'm off to work now, but I'll probly be checking this out when I get home in 8 hours lol. I hope you all have a great day. Big *hugs*

 

[can_usa_97]

Oh yeah! I Didn't even think of my own birthday (not sure how- since that's what yours forgot) but, mine, is SO easy - really really really easy!
It's Christmas Eve - but he still forgets when asked to recall it.

 

[joecreosta]

mine is January 1st. she never forgets.i always wait till last minute but BAMM she always greets me

 

[tgchi13]

It's all in the question: Ask me my date of birth, or his date of birth I'm okay; ask me how old I am...when he was born...

I mean really, it's 2010 - that's what we have come to rely on having computers for.

 

[boyee6576]

I think there is so much pressure to try and answer in a way that is satisfying to the officer that our minds go blank. I know when I had to go to my ADR, I was nervous but I was speaking in my own mother tongue, not to mention I had all kinds of notes to help me on our case. I knew what they would ask and how to answer. You dont get the option in an interview. Some are speaking in english which is not their mother tongue and worried that if they get someone to interpret for them that they will fail the interview, cause the VO will think how can you communicate with your spouse? I think some become so nervous knowing that their lives with their loved one hinges on that moment of getting things right that their minds draw a blank. Its much easier to express your feelings in your mother tongue than in a language thats not.

Ask me how old I am and I really have to think for a moment.

 

[ather8888]

Thank you TGChi. You're very sweet to be so compassionate. And I know all of you here are going through so much too. It's very difficult to be apart from your spouse and to have stability in your lives. I'm up and down emotionally. Work is a good distraction but it doesn't replace a real touch. I miss holding his hand. I feel terrible waking up alone every day. I hope for the best for all of you. I'm off to work now, but I'll probly be checking this out when I get home in 8 hours lol. I hope you all have a great day. Big *hugs*

HI Turan

Ur love for him is true and i believe he wil get visa

Inspite of all these, it does not mean that they have rejected his application

I have seen some cases with bad interview in family class but they got visa

So all pray for u n ur husband to get visa

Thanks

 

[titina]

to JoeCrosta: I felt it ... there has been a 5.0 magnitude earthquake in Quebec

 

[joecreosta]

to JoeCrosta: I felt it ... there has been a 5.0 magnitude earthquake in Quebec

lol i know i was typing post here and my desk start to shaking lol my monitor stated moving lol 5.5 mangitube earthquake

 

[ambar]

Mrs. Turan I hope the immigration officer was a nice person, and that ur hubby didn't do as bad as he thinks he did. Gluck to you both.

My husband and me are also waiting to see if Damascus will ask him to come in for an interview or not. I know he gets nervous too but I'm planning on flying there to be with him for our 1st anniversary in August. so hopefully by then we'll know what's going on with us.

I wish everyone gluck with their applications.. I know the waiting is so horrible. Thank God for the internet and telephone.

 

[iarblue]

Yeah dont stress about how well he did or how bad he did,its all in the eyes of the IO,They are human too and god knows men are the worst at remembering dates(am i right girls).I have to put all dates in my phone or god help me i would be in trouble.If it was a female IO she was likely thinking oh good god typical male lol.If it was a guy he was likely thinking what the heck is his own wife birthdate.
They are more concerned i think with the more important stuff.You may be surprised at the outcome but sitting there thinking it went bad when it may not have will eat you up.Smile and dont worry too much.

 

[Mrs. Turan]

Awwww I read Bobshynoswife, your letter made me cry. You are going through so much. And TGChi, thank you for writing that to me. It helped put things in perspective. The truth is, I don't care where we live. I'm just tired of being apart. We can survive anywhere, eventually thrive This is such an emotional rollercoaster for everyone here. It's nice that we can support each other in this forum. After the interview, I didn't know what to think, I still don't know what will happen, I'm just gonna wait and see.

I think we need to be together though. If it helps our case, we need to be living together. No more guessing.

 

[bobshynoswife]

Mrs. Turan, I agree with you! I have always been scared about my application because if we are refused, I don't really have the option to live with him. I have three children, ages 12, 9 and 6, and I obviously can't leave them and go live in Nigeria! If I didn't have the kids, I would be there now, living with him.

Personally, I think living a year in Turkey would be amazing! Just think about how much stronger your marriage will be when you have lived his culture. Plus your Turkish will definitely improve. Also, his mother will probably love you!

Don't jump the gun - wait until you find out what's going on, and if he is refused, I think moving to Turkey would be the best move. You are virtually guaranteed to win your appeal then!

 

[Cdagal]

bobshynoswife: Decision made??? Is that on your first stage? Surely not the whole thing?!?! Accra hasn't sped up that much, has it?

 

[bobshynoswife]

OMG - No! LOL! That is decision made on the first stage. I'll change it in my signature in a minute.

Things have improved in Accra though! There are some people getting their visas in 6 months!