I thought when I had my ADR I did explain it well enough but I guess to the Ministers Counsel she didn't agree. At the same time this happened, my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer, and I explained also to her that with both of those reasons I put a halt on the sponsorship because I was the main caregiver for her. As well as the only person with an income, having to support her, myself, and my husband made things more difficult. She didn't care. She seemed to only be interested in hearing that the friend and husband split since my friend and her husband were acquaintances of my husband. It was garbage. Her exact words were "I believe that you love your husband, but I still have questions for him. For this reason I am not going to say we can resolve this today." She didn't ask how we met, how our relationship progressed, she didn't touch any of the evidence. It makes me so mad to think about all this.
Also how I understand her, instead of adding up all the time in between that we were in a relationship (speaking over the phone, texting, emailing, etc) she only considered the time we spent IN PERSON BEFORE we got married. It didn't matter to her the total time we've been together now. I've gone every 3 months, and actually just returned from a month long stay. She didn't seem to understand how people could have a relationship continue over the phone, texting, email, etc. Regardless that I am there everything 3 months.
It is true. My husband had a terrible VO. She didn't ask barely information, and did not ask him for proof of our relationship even when he brought a suitcase full of pictures, letters, emails, flight records, phone records, text records, etc. I too thought IAD would be a little more effective.
Thank you for advice with my response about why I waited. Is it better to leave it at just that, and not to add that waiting more time we thought it would help?
I am still waiting to hear when my full court hearing will be. I am in Edmonton so I know that the hearing is normally held in Vancouver. So if I were to go to Vancouver I would like to make arrangements. My ADR was in November, and the DRO said it would take at least a year - around end of Summer, beginning of Fall - for a full hearing. However it is impossible to get a hold of anyone at the appeal office. I keep getting the machine over and over.
Do you mind if I ask what happened in your case?