sathi 786 said:
Dear Tinu and Miky
Thanks a lot for your sincere help.
The answrs to your questions are as below:
1. Basically this child was adoted by my only sister from my younger brother from the day one of birth of this baby girl as you know it usually happed in our families as love and care but only verbly but not legally. My sister was unmarreid and residing with me and died three years back suddenly due to heart attack .After her death I took her as my daughter and continued grooming as she called me dady from day one. Legally I have not adopt her yer but trully assumed her my realy daughter.
2- Her parents are alive and healthy ,have three more babies and wel set ,no financial issue and living nearby but they dont have any objection for her adoption with me as we all brothers love each other like our cultural traditions.
3-She is going to school with my two kids and I am affording her all expenses like just like father. In the school , my name is written as guardian.
4-At interview with VO , her biological parents will not have any objection. The girl will go with me without any hesitation as she think we are her parents.
Dear legally we still not adoted that girl yet as it does not need in our society usually . You know Only verbal commitments have strong ties and weightage in our culture. We have developed very strong relations , sentiments and love for this baby girl. Sorry I have bust out my all inner feelings in this case. Please excuse me.
After all discussion , I feel that we should let the process complete and after PR should file the case for her adotion to avoid any delay right now.Am i right ? please advise me now.
Moreover is the process of adoption would be easy for this baby child later on.
thanks for all once again
Sathi
Hi,
Now i got clear idea abt the child.sathy u come from traditional family n i guess u r unaware of many crimes toward children.to control crimes toward children,govt of several countries hv come with stringents laws regarding adoption.these laws definetely protect children to large extent,however kind hearted people r having hard time in legally adopting child.
when i first saw ur post i had several queries in my mind,most of them tinu had already expressed n i got answers,u hv done grt job by putting whole scene infront.
I hv to say honestly that ur family hv messed up things LEGALLY with regard to child.pls try to keep urself in child shoes n look into facts,child is seperated from biological parents to satisfy emotional needs of aunt,who cant support child financially.i feel sorry for ur sis fate but she definetely didnt hv concern for child's future.child is registered in school under biological parents names n financially cared by uncle who is emotionally attached than anyone.child is cared by everyone from extended family but no one is having binding.this is the situation the child is in.this is the understanding any knowledged person will get including cic.
Coming to ur situation,sd u inform cic or not?
if u inform now, processing will get delayed n child will not b accepted by cic unless u adopt legally.i dont kw from which country are n hw long it will take for legal process.ideal thing would b landing in canada n applying for adoption later.mind u this applies keeping u,ur wife n sons in mind not girl child.u can adopt child from canada but its tedious job n might take long time n in the meantime child will suffer emotional trauma of seperation.
Now u have to decide which is priority in life n which one u r ready to forgo.relax urself.....think n act.
I kw u r under stress but u r an adult n u can handle it maturely.pls dont give any kind of furthur stress to child,she cant handle it.
Good luck,my prayers r with u n ur girl child.
Rgds,
Art.
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