A strain on your relationship?

[CanadianJeepGuy]

I think my wife's feeling the same way as yours as far as feeling bad about the strain on me. When we met she was working in a call center, and did for probably the first 6 month, but they laid off 25 eventually and she was in that group. She worked for a friend for probably a month or a bit more after that but I told her to quit cause she was doing 12 and 13 hour days for about what I make in 15 minutes, and her health is worth more than a few pesos to me.

She also wanted to pursue other jobs to help out but in most cases you need to sigh a contract over there and I wasn't willing to let her take that risk, .. because in all honesty I figured our documents would zip through the CIC fast and that she'd either have to break her contract or stay till it was finished.

We just hope she can get work not long after she arrives to help stabilize us financially again. She doesn't actually care if she starts in a minimum wage job but she's got a university education and I think she can do better than that. To me anything's a big help though.

We do feel we're close, .. just not feeling all that confident that we're "close enough" to spend Christmas together this year again.

Ya I feel for you. I'm looking to spring for it all to be resolved. I will fly over and pick her up and then we can finally get on with our lives.

 

[bonitanita]

Can your wives not come here on a visitor visa in the meantime?

 

[aerogurl87]

Can your wives not come here on a visitor visa in the meantime?

Depending on what country you're from, it can be hard if not near impossible, to get a visitor visa.

 

[Merlyns_Tim]

Can your wives not come here on a visitor visa in the meantime?

Unfortunately Bonitanita the Philippines is a very difficult (almost impossible) place for anyone to get a visa to Canada. In almost every case unless the applicant is very well off and has a reason to go back they'll reject your application faster than you can blink an eye.

 

[CanadianJeepGuy]

Can your wives not come here on a visitor visa in the meantime?

I think the wait for a visitor visa from the Philippines will take longer than a Nominee application.

 

[bonitanita]

Oh. Really? I have a friend in Halifax who came here with his wife who was from the Philippines before she was approved. I guess they must have applied for her visitor visa a long time ago.

It must be hard when your partner is from a country where a visitor visa is required. I hope you both hear good news very soon. Be strong and keep focussing on what is important. The holidays is a crappy time to be apart but I'm sure you'll figure out a way to make the best of an awful situation.

x

 

[Merlyns_Tim]

Before I met my wife I had met another woman from the Philippines I was interested in, and we tried to get her a visitation visa. Even after me sending all the info that was required of me we were turned down flat and told not to reapply unless there were significant changes. A persons social status over there seems to affect things a lot. If you aren't working and your kids are all grown up they just figure you wont go back.
To my way of thinking though it's fool hearty to sneak into a place like Canada and the USA with no intention of returning, because if you're here illegally you shouldn't have health or social benefits and in my opinion are running a big risk.

 

[amikety]

Before I met my wife I had met another woman from the Philippines I was interested in, and we tried to get her a visitation visa. Even after me sending all the info that was required of me we were turned down flat and told not to reapply unless there were significant changes. A persons social status over there seems to affect things a lot. If you aren't working and your kids are all grown up they just figure you wont go back.
To my way of thinking though it's fool hearty to sneak into a place like Canada and the USA with no intention of returning, because if you're here illegally you shouldn't have health or social benefits and in my opinion are running a big risk.

That's not entirely true.... In the USA, illegals can get medicaid without proof of green card or visa. Workers aren't allowed to ask because it's against the human rights of the illegal. They get free doctors, they can qualify for food stamps and other social programs. Many times they will have babies that are US citizens, making the children (and parents by extension) eligible for even more social programs. I have a friend married to an illegal alien and they have two kids. She is a US citizen. Her husband was pulled over and sent to jail for being an illegal and wreckless driving. However, because he has a wife and two kids, he was released instead of deported. (I agree he should stay with his wife and kids, all US citizens, however, I also think they need to get their butts into gear and get his green card. They've been married for seven years!)

 

[AnaMaria]

I was hoping to get cash collateral on MasterCard removed. That would be extra $1,250 free money to use but I had to wait until PR card arrives. ??? I don't know how to survive... :'(

 

[Merlyns_Tim]

That's not entirely true.... In the USA, illegals can get medicaid without proof of green card or visa. Workers aren't allowed to ask because it's against the human rights of the illegal. They get free doctors, they can qualify for food stamps and other social programs. Many times they will have babies that are US citizens, making the children (and parents by extension) eligible for even more social programs. I have a friend married to an illegal alien and they have two kids. She is a US citizen. Her husband was pulled over and sent to jail for being an illegal and wreckless driving. However, because he has a wife and two kids, he was released instead of deported. (I agree he should stay with his wife and kids, all US citizens, however, I also think they need to get their butts into gear and get his green card. They've been married for seven years!)

I guess if the illegals know the loop holes they can get away with pretty much anything. Too bad there isn't a way to close those up.

 

[CKnD]

I am in the same boat as Merlyns_Tim, my wife can not get a visit visa. She is in Iraq, I have asked several lawyers about getting a visitor visa for her .. I was always told the same thing " Dont Bother, she wont get it". CIC told me the same thing ( just worded nicely ). Also my wife has never traveled outside Iraq, so traveling is a new experience she cant do alone.

I work 12 hours a day, 7 days a week, last time I had a chance to see her, was for 2 week ( 10 days to be exact .. 2 days to get there, 2 days to get back ) ... plus my VO has a 20 month processing time.

Its really hard being away from my wife, I'm going crazy, but I have no choice.
A Fiance visa would have been nice, even if they made her sign a contract saying that if we split up she has to leave. I'd be fine with that.

 

[CKnD]

I think if they implemented a Fiancee visa, the conditions would have to be strict, and simple. The reasons mentions in this forum are all valid. To avoid fraud, and to avoid any extra funding by the government for staff or monitoring. The conditions should be something like:
-You can get a fiancee visa if your VO process takes longer then 8 months. ( you can apply for it after the 8th month)
-The applicant is not allowed to use any Government aid ( welfare, healthcare .. so on) and not able to work.
-Lastly to make sure people are careful about applying for a fiancee visa, the sponsor must sign a contract stating if the applicant is forced to leave canada and does not do so, they will be fined monthly until said person leaves the country. This fine has to be steep thus striking fear in those that wish to engage in this contract.

This way the "monitoring costs are low", and we all know there is no way out of owing the government money. They will eliminate fraud, and bring people who really are a couple and want to spend their lives together .. together

I'd sign a contract like that in a heart beat if it meant my wife would be here in a week

 

[bonitanita]

I was hoping to get cash collateral on MasterCard removed. That would be extra $1,250 free money to use but I had to wait until PR card arrives. ??? I don't know how to survive... :'(

You've landed now right? Are you applying for jobs yet?

 

[blueangel371115]

Re: A strain on your relationship

I The conditions should be something like:
-You can get a fiancee visa if your VO process takes longer then 8 months. ( you can apply for it after the 8th month)
-The applicant is not allowed to use any Government aid ( welfare, healthcare .. so on) and not able to work.
-Lastly to make sure people are careful about applying for a fiancee visa, the sponsor must sign a contract stating if the applicant is forced to leave canada and does not do so, they will be fined monthly until said person leaves the country. This fine has to be steep thus striking fear in those that wish to engage in this contract.

This way the "monitoring costs are low", and we all know there is no way out of owing the government money. They will eliminate fraud, and bring people who really are a couple and want to spend their lives together .. together

I'd sign a contract like that in a heart beat if it meant my wife would be here in a week

visto

I agree with that 100%. Some wait times are very long and some countries it is difficult (if not, impossible) to be issued a visitor's visa but, and my fiance agrees, that would cost extra money to the CIC to check every couple's case. However, they should be allowed to process as a fiance visa, with expedited processing, to reunite these families. In my opinion.

 

[bonitanita]

In addition to that, I wish there were a way that CIC could issue temporary work visas while waiting for PR. I know it'll probably never happen because it means more work for them but imagine how much easier life would be with it!