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How to prove strained relationship between siblings?

EFK123

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Hi,
I was looking at the h&c for my mum..she has not lived in Pakistan for almost 40 years but she still has a few brothers and an elderly mother there. She does not get along with them and they have a very strained relationship...she did visit them a few years ago just to see her mum for 2 weeks but had to get out because the emotional drama was too much for her to handle..how do I prove that she will not be able to stay there if she were forced to go back? They have completely different lifestyles, mindsets, ways of thinking etc...plus they are unemployed..the elderly mother is also just there and doesnt want to leave because its her home, but noone is happy with the situation of how things are in that house..and if my mother goes back, she will not be able to live there even for 10 days.
She has other siblings in Canada who can write a letter confirming the strained relationships, but will that be enough? What do I need to prove that at her age she will suffer too much stress if shes suddenly put into that toxic environment all of a sudden where shes not lived? (In addition to country wide issues, discrimination of minorities etc which i can prove with articles/reports) Has anyone else successfully been able to prove the discrimination in Pakistan (not a refugee claim but using the resources which specify discrimination...that too for a widow 60 plus woman from a minority)
 

canuck78

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She isn't forced to live in the same home as her siblings if she has to return to Pakistan. Letters from siblings saying that they don't have a good relationship without concrete proof doesn't hold much weight since families are often willing to write anything if they think it will help their family member.
 
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EFK123

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She isn't forced to live in the same home as her siblings if she has to return to Pakistan. Letters from siblings saying that they don't have a good relationship without concrete proof doesn't hold much weight since families are often willing to write anything if they think it will help their family member.
Yes i agree..keeping in mind the conditions of Pakistan, a widow of 60 plus (female from a minority community) cannot live alone either..i can prove that with lots of reports and articles on the crime and violence against women and discrimination of minorities...but then they should not come back and say "but shw can live with her siblings" because she absolutely cannot do that either
 

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Yes i agree..keeping in mind the conditions of Pakistan, a widow of 60 plus (female from a minority community) cannot live alone either..i can prove that with lots of reports and articles on the crime and violence against women and discrimination of minorities...but then they should not come back and say "but shw can live with her siblings" because she absolutely cannot do that either
Do you belong to a minority group? Can i ask which group?
 

canuck78

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Yes i agree..keeping in mind the conditions of Pakistan, a widow of 60 plus (female from a minority community) cannot live alone either..i can prove that with lots of reports and articles on the crime and violence against women and discrimination of minorities...but then they should not come back and say "but shw can live with her siblings" because she absolutely cannot do that either
It's hard to tell whether the fact that your mother didn't attempt to live on her own in Pakistan will be an issue versus proof there is issues with violence against women. You need concrete proof why your mother could not live with her siblings or live close by to her mother and siblings. Her preference may not be to live with them but you would need proof why it is impossible. You can explain in a letter but concrete proof is the best proof. The fact that she did visit them in 2019 does show but that she didn't fear for her life or she wouldn't have visited. I would suggest working with a lawyer. A lawyer familiar with h and C applications will know what proof is best and what type of proof