@sophie1 .. I have been following your conversation. Based on my understanding, NDVO reviews the applications based on the culture or the norm of the applicant's country. In India, most of the times, weddings are grand and lavish. Yes, there can be an instance where parents do not agree and then people get married without the parents consent, which is fine and I believe this is exactly what you explained while submitting the application.
The second part here is when you got married without the parents consent but at the end of the day, you are still the loving child of your parents and parents may let go of their ego and decide to do a grand reception party or wedding as per the ritual on the later date (Remember that, for our parents, culture heritage and rituals can be very important). In your case, NDVO is just confirming whether you guys are going to do any ritual ceremony (considering the fact that parents might have agreed to this relation). All you need to do is as provide a response considering the same fact:
- Explain whether you have done any ritual ceremony or reception ceremony after wedding? If yes, provide details such as number of guests, venue, photographs etc. If not, just explain why not and it could be parents still not agreeing, or decided not to spend money or planning to do but can't do because of covid or do not want to do because of finance thing (Just be honest)
- Provide additional details such as your call records after wedding, any trips after wedding. If you are planning a trip, explain that such as when and what are you planning to do in that trip etc. etc.
- If both side parents have greed to this relationship, get an affidavit from parents and may be mention in that affidavit if parents want any ritual ceremony or not etc.
Hope this helps!
Thats a really good explanation. And if you still need more help, my personal opinion would be to get a professional/immigration lawyer to do it. Since you do not have to do it again or take any chances on your application.