Thanks Joshua1! I guess this forum is for asking immigration related questions and getting opinions. I do not think I talked about my personal affairs. I just put a scenario in-front of you all so that you can understand my situation and give me opinion accordingly. I kept it very generic and did not talk private things. I am not offended by any of the answers. I am very grateful to you all. As many other challenges surfaced, we have decided to plan baby's birth in Canada. Thanks!
I just wanted to say that I understand your wife's situation. I assume this is your first child, right? Many new mothers are anxious about everything and want family by their side. It's understandable. But I am here to tell you, from personal experience, that everything will be alright.
My son was born not even a year after I became a PR. I had no friends and no family. I was scared that I will not be able to handle it. But you know what? Everything turned out ok. For some reason, after my son was born, my maternal instincts kicked in and all of a sudden I knew how to take care of a newborn. My husband was great too, we were taking turns waking up in the middle of the night to feed the baby. And looking back, it was one of the most wonderful experiences we had as a couple. It united us even more, it made us appreciate each other more.
There are a few pieces of advice I can give you to make your life easier in the first 3 months (those are the hardest).
1. Join a prenatal class (they are inexpensive and usually are held at a local college) - just google prenatal classes in your area. You will learn many things that will help you prepare for labor and delivery. Also, you could make new friends, couples that are going through the same thing as you. Some of my best family friends right now are people my husband and I met at our prenatal class.
2. There are grocery stores that deliver (we used Save on Foods). You just go online, choose your groceries and they come to your door. This was a lifesaver for us. Also, take out food when we were too tired to cook.
3. The more difficult period is the first 3 months, but that goes by so quickly. The arrival of a child is so wonderful and exhausting at the same time, so I would think adding unnecessary stress is not what you want. As others have mentioned, the child would need to be sponsored and most likely not receive a tourist visa to come to Canada in the meantime.
Like I said, I went through the exact same thing, and to my surprise, I didn't really need my family. Sure, it would have made certain things easier (like cooking) but we survived. I wish you good luck with everything and please tell your wife that she is stronger than she thinks she is. I once read something that stuck with me: "The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. The mother is absolutely something new."
I am just hoping for the best
