my sibling and i will be moving back to the country within the next 3 years and we'll be looking after him along with our mom, and obviously if he outlives her we'll be looking after him.
we did have long term care in place but we found out after his caregiver passed away that she had been abusive towards him and burnt him with hot metal etc...so we're no longer comfortable or confident getting another caregiver for him over there.
my mother has lived here most of her life and that's why we're trying to get him over here...so we can all be together and she can grieve and also make sure her brother is ok.
it's easy to think you'd know what to do in this situation and that long-term decisions and planning would be problem-free, but until you're in it, you really don't know. when my mom left, her parents were young and my uncle wasn't as bad as he is now...so his parents looked after him. my mom had been going back and forth between 2 countries but when my dad fell ill she had to stop to look after him and spend time with him and unfortunately, he has now passed and it's hit her very hard. she loved him very much and he was relatively young when he passed away. so now the situation is more difficult as she needs emotional support to help her get through this loss but also can't leave her brother alone now that the caregiver has passed away. it's a really awful situation to be in and he'll be the one hardest hit, as there is literally nobody there to look after him.
worst case scenario my mom will have to go and live there permanently, but it's gonna hit her hard too because who'll give her emotional support to deal with the loss of my father? i quit my job to come here and help look after my father but i'll have to go back home to where my husband is and also to start earning money again. we're gonna have to stay there for at least another couple of years, as his mom is also widowed and he's an only child, so she needs us too.
my uncle is a happy and gentle person, who loves to laugh and make us laugh. he's thriving here! it's such a shame that the chances of him staying here are so slim
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i really don't know what's gonna happen to our family
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my mom has worked hard all her life, paid taxes etc. she's never been in trouble with the law - not even a parking or traffic ticket. but now she might have to move away to a country that she doesn't consider home. i hope whoever gets his case can find some compassion for this situation
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