Divorce help - Canadian divorcing foreign wife

[h2hjastermereel]

Hi

Looks like I am heading for divorce with the foreign woman I married in Canada last September. She has a visa and spousal sponsorship is/was underway but not completed. Questions:

1. How does the process go differently from a standard divorce? I know she will have two months to respond instead of the standard 20 days, but can't find anything else about it. Or does she still fill all the same forms but just has to mail them back here?
2. How is child support (we have a Canadian baby who is living with her mother now) done? No way I am paying her CDN amounts when she lives in a 3rd world country (Exchange is 20 to 1). I will make sure they are looked after but standard Canadian amounts would be ludicrous there.

Thanks.

 

[carolbb23]

usually canadIan courts side with the mother

 

[wait_so_long]

Despite what happened to the relationship with her mother, I think you'd both want what is best for your daughter. To grow up in a country where she would have access to quality health care and education. To have an opportunity to make something of herself, and where women are looked upon as equals.

 

[h2hjastermereel]

Despite what happened to the relationship with her mother, I think you'd both want what is best for your daughter. To grow up in a country where she would have access to quality health care and education. To have an opportunity to make something of herself, and where women are looked upon as equals.

Well of course but her mother would never let her live here away from her.

 

[h2hjastermereel]

usually canadIan courts side with the mother

Sorry how does that pertain to my questions?

 

[scylla]

Sorry how does that pertain to my questions?

I think that was in reference to the child support. Quite possible they will assess the child support as if they were living in Canada.

 

[carolbb23]

the way you ask the question you made sound like you do not want to pay Canadian child support rate but you see the canandian courts see your daughter as a canadian

 

[wait_so_long]

It is commendable that you don't intend to become just another deadbeat dad. From your initial post, it sounds like you want to raise your daughter to third-world standards. I hope that is not the case. Even though the daughter may be living with her mother, you should want to make sure she is raised to first-world standards, as much as reasonably possible. Make sure she has access to first-world education, good health-care, etc. ... all of which might be easier said than done in many third world countries.

How old is your daughter? Has she bonded to you? Your obligations as a father go beyond just the financial support. Are you able to work out some kind of arrangement with the mother where you are able to stay in your daughter's life, at least to a certain extent? In many cultures, single mothers and fatherless children are looked upon with disdain. They are bullied, and subject to all kinds of discrimination - both societal and institutional. Having a "daddy" that worries about her, even though he is half a world away, would give the child a small measure of comfort during the darkest days.

 

[canadianwoman]

You need a lawyer. Since the relationship has broken down, you should inform CIC that you are withdrawing the sponsorship. The lawyer can advise you about child support and custody arrangements.

 

[spousalsponsee]

Hi

Looks like I am heading for divorce with the foreign woman I married in Canada last September. She has a visa and spousal sponsorship is/was underway but not completed. Questions:

1. How does the process go differently from a standard divorce? I know she will have two months to respond instead of the standard 20 days, but can't find anything else about it. Or does she still fill all the same forms but just has to mail them back here?
2. How is child support (we have a Canadian baby who is living with her mother now) done? No way I am paying her CDN amounts when she lives in a 3rd world country (Exchange is 20 to 1). I will make sure they are looked after but standard Canadian amounts would be ludicrous there.

Thanks.

You have three separate issues to sort out.

1) Your sponsorship of your wife, to be ex-wife: You can withdraw your sponsorship, and cancel the application.
2) Your divorce from your wife. Get a lawyer.
3) Your child support issues - which also divides into a sub-issue of where the child lives. If the child is currently in Canada, you may need to consent to the child leaving Canada when the mother has to go home. Again, you need a family lawyer.