Scared and don't know what to do!

[z28eater]

I sponsored my husband to come to Canada. We filed an inland application. My husband has joint custody, but his ex-wife has permanent placement of the children. He doesn't get to see his children very often since him and his ex-wife are like fire and gasoline. Anyways he called her up on Friday to ask if he could take the kids for a medical. At first, she seemed co-operative but told my husband to call her on Monday so that can discuss things. Since then he has called her three times and texted her twice with no answer.

He received a call from her tonight stating that she didn't want to put the kids through the medical and that she wasn't going to co-operate. When he said to her that he kind of figured that she became belligerent and started being verbally abusive to him.

We went to see a lawyer the other day and she said to document the case. We only have 3 calls and two text messages. What is significant proof that the ex-wife won't allow the children to do their medicals? Other than my husband writing a notarized letter saying that he can't take the kids to Canada for a medical and documenting what happened between his ex-wife and him and that he understands that he can't sponsor them in the future what else can he do to satisfy the immigration, officer? Please keep in mind that my husband works in the US, and his ex-works for child support, hence she tries to make his life a living hell.

Please advice.

Thank you

 

[scylla]

I sponsored my husband to come to Canada. We filed an inland application. My husband has joint custody, but his ex-wife has permanent placement of the children. He doesn't get to see his children very often since him and his ex-wife are like fire and gasoline. Anyways he called her up on Friday to ask if he could take the kids for a medical. At first, she seemed co-operative but told my husband to call her on Monday so that can discuss things. Since then he has called her three times and texted her twice with no answer.

He received a call from her tonight stating that she didn't want to put the kids through the medical and that she wasn't going to co-operate. When he said to her that he kind of figured that she became belligerent and started being verbally abusive to him.

We went to see a lawyer the other day and she said to document the case. We only have 3 calls and two text messages. What is significant proof that the ex-wife won't allow the children to do their medicals? Other than my husband writing a notarized letter saying that he can't take the kids to Canada for a medical and documenting what happened between his ex-wife and him and that he understands that he can't sponsor them in the future what else can he do to satisfy the immigration, officer? Please keep in mind that my husband works in the US, and his ex-works for child support, hence she tries to make his life a living hell.

Please advice.

Thank you

Read through this thread. It will tell you how to move forward:

https://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/threads/possible-to-waive-medical-exam-for-non-accompanying-dependent.306158/

 

[Rob_TO]

He should make sure the ex understands that putting the kids through a medical exam, means the door will stay open in case one of them wants to perhaps attend university or try working in Canada when they finish high school. They would be allowed to be sponsored until they turn age 22.

However with no medical done, this essentially closes this door and would make it much more difficult for them to work or study in Canada in the future. Perhaps would be no issue if they intend to stay in USA only, but you never know what they will want when older.

 

[np08]

He should make sure the ex understands that putting the kids through a medical exam, means the door will stay open in case one of them wants to perhaps attend university or try working in Canada when they finish high school. They would be allowed to be sponsored until they turn age 22.

However with no medical done, this essentially closes this door and would make it much more difficult for them to work or study in Canada in the future. Perhaps would be no issue if they intend to stay in USA only, but you never know what they will want when older.

Sadly, in cases like these the parent causing trouble probably likes the idea of the kids having that venue of being with the other parent closed.

 

[Rob_TO]

Sadly, in cases like these the parent causing trouble probably likes the idea of the kids having that venue of being with the other parent closed.

True, although really it's just hurting the kids as after age 18 they are free to do what they want and may be interested in working or going to school in Canada.
Plus if anything were to happen to the mother, there would be no way for the kids to immigrate to Canada to live with the father.

It's very selfish not to let kids go through the medical exam, but I guess many ex's don't think rationally and just want to hurt the other parent more than they actually care about what's best for the kids.

 

[np08]

True, although really it's just hurting the kids as after age 18 they are free to do what they want and may be interested in working or going to school in Canada.
Plus if anything were to happen to the mother, there would be no way for the kids to immigrate to Canada to live with the father.

It's very selfish not to let kids go through the medical exam, but I guess many ex's don't think rationally and just want to hurt the other parent more than they actually care about what's best for the kids.

Yeah, people tend to fight over and through their kids, and it's the kids that suffer the most. I know if I was that kid and my parent closed the possibility of me immigrating into Canada one day without me getting a say in it... That's just one of those things you don't forgive.

Hopefully it all works out for OP and the kids.