really depressed......

[~*Dani*~]

I am enormously depressed big time. The Embassy in Rabat and the VO destroyed me emotionally.. I felt that everything is end of world and no hopes, our future plans is ruined.

also, I am very skeptical about Appeal process, the IAD board and my Lawyer. I felt like we are guilty and no one believe us.

I lost interest in everything and let it slide away such like doing laundry and cleaning the room and not feel like to eat anything at all--no interest. I rather to stay in bed. I stayed in bed since 8 30 am to 5:11pm already today and going back to bed, too depressed. :'(

my husband encouraged me to forget what the VO said to us and move on but I wont forget what the refusal letter said and I am still obsessed about visa for my husband. I want him to be with me.

i still cry about remembering the details in refusal letter..it stings a lot. It destroyed me emotionally scar inside and outside.

 

[frenchie57]

I am enormously depressed big time. The Embassy in Rabat and the VO destroyed me emotionally.. I felt that everything is end of world and no hopes, our future plans is ruined.

also, I am very skeptical about Appeal process, the IAD board and my Lawyer. I felt like we are guilty and no one believe us.

I lost interest in everything and let it slide away such like doing laundry and cleaning the room and not feel like to eat anything at all--no interest. I rather to stay in bed. I stayed in bed since 8 30 am to 5:11pm already today and going back to bed, too depressed. :'(

my husband encouraged me to forget what the VO said to us and move on but I wont forget what the refusal letter said and I am still obsessed about visa for my husband. I want him to be with me.

i still cry about remembering the details in refusal letter..it stings a lot. It destroyed me emotionally scar inside and outside.

Did they give you a reason for declining ?

 

[user828]

Painful to read, what happened exactly

 

[AnaMaria]

I am enormously depressed big time. The Embassy in Rabat and the VO destroyed me emotionally.. I felt that everything is end of world and no hopes, our future plans is ruined.

also, I am very skeptical about Appeal process, the IAD board and my Lawyer. I felt like we are guilty and no one believe us.

I lost interest in everything and let it slide away such like doing laundry and cleaning the room and not feel like to eat anything at all--no interest. I rather to stay in bed. I stayed in bed since 8 30 am to 5:11pm already today and going back to bed, too depressed. :'(

my husband encouraged me to forget what the VO said to us and move on but I wont forget what the refusal letter said and I am still obsessed about visa for my husband. I want him to be with me.

i still cry about remembering the details in refusal letter..it stings a lot. It destroyed me emotionally scar inside and outside.

I am truly sorry for what happened and understand your mood. It makes me mad the government did this to many Canadian families.

Not that I am pro medication but you may need some assistance. (I know even going to see a doctor is too much for this state of mind...). Your symptoms are all signs of depression. You will have to be strong as you still have things to do in order to reunite with your husband and live in Canada. Give yourself a nice treat and seek some help. My heart goes out to you.

 

[canadianwoman]

Sorry to hear this, Dani. Remember that about half of appeal cases win, so you and your husband have a good chance. And the fact that you have been staying with him helps show the relationship is real too.

 

[Habibti]

Dani... I am very sorry to hear how you feel. I have been there. It is a roller-coaster. There are days you will be fine, others less fine. You have a little girl. She needs you. You have to stay strong for her and for the appeal as it is another ordeal. After that, everything will be fine. I survived it all

As I mentioned before, set little goals for each month. You will have a sense of accomplishment and feel good about yourself. It reminds me of a book I read called "A long walk to water". It is a true story. It is the story of a young boy who had to escape his country Sudan because of the war. One part of the book is about him crossing the desert barefoot with his uncle and a group of people to go to another country.

The first day in the desert felt like the longest day Salva had ever lived through. The sun was relentless and eternal. Each minute of walking in that arid heat felt like an hour. Even breathing became an effort. Thorns gored his feet. His lips became cracked and parched. Soon he was crying so hard that he could hardly get his breath. He could not think, he could barely see. He had to slow down.... As if by magic, Uncle was suddenly at his side.

"Salva!" he said. "Do you see that group of bushes?" Uncle said, pointing. "You need only to walk as far as those bushes. Can you do that, Salva?"

When they reached the bushes, Uncle pointed out a clump of rocks up ahead and told Salva to walk as far as the rocks. After that, a lone acacia... another clump of rocks... a spot bare of everything except sand.

You know what I mean? One day at a time. Each day or each week or each month (depending how big are the goals) have a goal to reach. You will move forward and in no time it will be the day of the appeal. Then, in no time, your husband's application for visa will be processed again. Then, in no time, he will get his visa and travel to Canada.

Your little girl needs you and your husband needs a supportive wife. It is through tests, we show our value. I know it hurts, it hurts terribly! With each passing day, the pain will diminish... I promise you It is normal to feel that way these days as the refusal happened to you recently. I don't know about your spiritual life, but you may find lots of comfort in the prayers and the sacred writings.

 

[~*Dani*~]

Did they give you a reason for declining ?

VO refused us on several reasons such like...VO said that I am not in Canada that application was filed..I am in Morocco for a year to be with my husband, I couldn't stand being apart away from him so I came to be with him. my Lawyer said that VO made a mistake. a Canadian Citizen can sponsor anyone while aboard as long as they intend to come to Canada with a sponsored person. I provided everything to the VO such as support letter from my mother, a place to stay and job offers.

another reason is that she did not believe that our marriage is not genuine and thinks that we did on purpose to get the status nor privileged by living together.. sheesh.... that's ridiculous... she is not satisfied that he will stay with me once in Canada. she think that he will not stay with me.

she also thinks that my husband is in a precarious economic situation in Morocco?!? He own scooter business for Tourists and said that he is not financially independent. he paid everything(water, food and electricity and medical bills for me to see doctor). the place we stay have hot water, electricity and gas, food, that we are not in a precarious situation. if a person don't have a access to clean water and no electricity, not enough food, not doing enough money to live by, that is PRECARIOUS.

she said she is not satisified that he is not inadmissible?! He dont have a criminal record, he had it Police criminal record check done, I seen it all.

it really hurt a lot.. I was so looking forward to return to Canada with my husband for Christmas and New Year eve with family and friends and have a good future for us together in Canada.

 

[~*Dani*~]

Painful to read, what happened exactly

read it at the upper that I wrote about the decline reasons.

 

[~*Dani*~]

I am truly sorry for what happened and understand your mood. It makes me mad the government did this to many Canadian families.

Not that I am pro medication but you may need some assistance. (I know even going to see a doctor is too much for this state of mind...). Your symptoms are all signs of depression. You will have to be strong as you still have things to do in order to reunite with your husband and live in Canada. Give yourself a nice treat and seek some help. My heart goes out to you.

I am not pro medication and never been fan of it, really. I just don't need assistance. the letter and the VO and Embassy really hurt , like a LOT. I felt like that we are guilty to them upon innocent will be proven in the appeal board.

my husband and I still gathering evidences that my Lawyer need. he want everything and mailed to him so we are working on that.

 

[~*Dani*~]

Sorry to hear this, Dani. Remember that about half of appeal cases win, so you and your husband have a good chance. And the fact that you have been staying with him helps show the relationship is real too.

yes, Canadianwoman.. some appeal cases didn't win successfully. you lost the appeal case at Full set hearing.
I been staying with him for year..but the Visa officer THINKS that we did it on purpose to get a status or privilege to get a visa by living together.

 

[~*Dani*~]

IT really SUCKED big time that VO rejected us. we didnt do anything wrong and ours is real and GENUINE. I love him all of my heart, I cannot imagine without him. He is lucky to be alive because he was in a bad scooter accident 5 day ago. he is still in some of pain, I still help him with things that he need and make that he is OK.

I know that my little girl needs me and need me and my husband as a family together. it is really hard that VO rejected us because I was excited and looking forward to come to Canada with my husband for Christmas and NYE with the family and the little girl to make it so meaningful for all of us. VO destroyed it.

my husband and I have a lot of work to do to get all things that my lawyer need and mail it to him so he can review everything so he can set up a Appeal profile book for the Appeal board. A Notice of Appeal already sent last month ago.

I heard about that book. lot of positive reviews. I was about to get that book while I was in Montreal to catch a plane to Morocco last year but I didn't.


my husband kept telling me that everything will be fine and try not to worry too much over it and stressed out about the Appeal and be strong. I don't understand why Government doing this to many people like us that we are honest, genuine people. it is people's fault that using wife or husband for just Canadian papers and the visa then ran off and hide and scamming the Government for social assistance.

I admit that I am not into prayers and all that but do believe in Bible book.

 

[Remrov]

I understand why you feel like this. I know that many of us here do.
Just keep believing in a positive ending. I wish the best for you.

 

[canadianwoman]

I'm sorry to hear about your husband's accident. I hope he gets better soon.
Living together for a year, and also having a baby: surely you will win the appeal. I don't know why they make it so difficult for some people, and others get a visa with no problem even with less proof.

 

[Ahmedbaraka]

I'm so sorry for you

Problem is about the people working in visa section because they have the right to do many thing and no rules so he or she used her opinon
Don't fed up

 

[gsize]

pull up your socks hun ! I would consider myself VERY lucky if you dont have to Appeal here in Toronto. The waiting time in Saskatoon is very short (please correct me if Im wrong)

Hopefully, you will be reunited soon ! Dont give up ! Keep busy ! Believe me, I know (28 months waiting time for Appeal hearing in Toronto) Where's the compassion ?