Question About which sponsership route to take

[Anthem]

Hey everyone!

I'm pretty new here, I just stumbled upon this site a few days ago and it has really helped me a lot from reading other posts. I have a couple of questions, but first let me tell you of my backgroud hehe . I'm in a relationship with someone wonderful and is the love of my life. She is perfect (i'm pretty sure many of you will agree that its hard to find someone so perfect that you can't let go). We have been together for over 3 years although we live in seperate countries(i'm canadian, shes vietnamese). Here is where our problem is:

We are first-cousins (This might sound weird or gross to some of you, as i can understand some of the social taboo that people associate with this issue). But please keep the negativity to a minimum thanks . I've gained friends and have lost friends through this process of opening up to people, but i've found that most people will accept you for who you are and are more willing to accept it than what not. She lives in a country where first-cousin marriage is illegal (it is legal in canada however). Also, it is required to attain a visa in order to visit her country. Hence we can not marry nor stay together for a long duration. She is unable to get a visitor visa as she does not have enough assets to support her case that she will return.

I'm assuming that I must go the conjugal route, is this the best opton for me? She lives in a country that traditionally doesn't accept these types of relationships. Would the IO use this against us, neither of us really follow tradition =/? We do have a ton of proof that our relationship is genuine (over 3000 photos, gift receipts, letters, over 100 pages of phone bills, money transfer receipts [one for each month, I financially support her 100%], chat logs, life insurance beneficiary, joint bank account, travel tickets, etc.).

Also, I'm graduating from Basc Electrical Engineering this year so im currently earning part-time wages. Financially, I realize I am not required to meet the Financial Abililty Requirement but would I still need to meet the Basic Needs Requirement of $15,057??

We really want to get this application started, but wuold like to get as much infirmation and a better understanding of it before we start. We love each other a lot and we can't wait to start our lives together. Hopefully someone can help, Thanks!!


P.S, has anyone tried sponsering their spouse, where their spouse was their first-cousin? I've done a lot of research on this type of relationship before getting into one.

 

[Suin]

hello,
you may try to marry he in a third country, I mean not in the countries where both you live, in the country that accepts this kind of marriages.
Also spouse sponsorship doesn't require minimum income.
Good luck!

 

[rjessome]

It looks like conjugal is the only option available to you. Sorry for the judgement you are facing. Marriages between first cousins are widely accepted in the world except for a few countries. I hope the "morality police" don't come here and shout self-righteous crap at you. You will NOT be judged on this by the VO, however, they will look at whether your relationship is accepted by your family as well as the true validity of it (genuineness) or are you just doing it as a favour to family members. It will get scrutiny so your arguements would have to be compelling. But it's possible.

This type of sponsorship is financially exempt so all you need to be worried about is that you do not collect welfare and do not have an undischarged banktruptcy.

 

[Anthem]

Wow, the responses on this forum is pretty quick , i'm amazed. We actually thought about going somewhere else to marry, but the thing with going to another third world country to get married is that it seems to be more of just a marriage of convenience than anything else. We feel that we don't need to get married because we're basically already just like a married couple with out the "actual marriage". We sort of just self-declared that we are "hubby-wifey" lol.

they will look at whether your relationship is accepted by your family as well as the true validity of it (genuineness) or are you just doing it as a favour to family members.

Not all of our family members know of our relationship, as it is something that isn't socially accepted. We are slowly opening up to the rest of our family though (it has been tough but its something we need to do). My siblings and her siblings know of our relationship and accepts it. As with our parents, my Dad doesn't seem to be accepting this, while the others dont agree with it but will accept it. Will there be a problem if certain family members aknowledges our relationship but does not accept it? I don't want my future to be tarnished based on the fact that my father does not accept my decision to love someone. In terms of true validity of our relationship, i think we have more then enough evidence to support it.


Thanks for the feedback rjessome & Suin!! It's really helpful =D.

 

[rjessome]

Not all of our family members know of our relationship, as it is something that isn't socially accepted. We are slowly opening up to the rest of our family though (it has been tough but its something we need to do). My siblings and her siblings know of our relationship and accepts it. As with our parents, my Dad doesn't seem to be accepting this, while the others dont agree with it but will accept it. Will there be a problem if certain family members aknowledges our relationship but does not accept it? I don't want my future to be tarnished based on the fact that my father does not accept my decision to love someone. In terms of true validity of our relationship, i think we have more then enough evidence to support it.

No, it won't be a problem as far as immigration is concerned. As long as you can prove the relationship is genuine and meets the criteria of a conjugal relationship according to the guidelines. You might want to read the OP manuals about how conjugal relationships are viewed and processed at the overseas missions. Here's the link:

http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/resources/manuals/op/op02-eng.pdf