my inlaws are creating problem for me..

[asdff]

Dear friends I need YOUR HELP.....
I got married in Pakistan a year back, my wife is a PR card holder, she wanted to give birth to our child in canada, she went back for the delivery. A son was born from us... during this time she said that she has applied for my PR card.. but she is not sending the docements in time, some time its the tax receipt, or some times is an in-complete form. I used to catch this from her mails.
well, since the child was born in oct, my wife’s mother didnot wanted to go through an operation, she wanted a normal delivery, the certificate of delivery date was 18 oct, but the doctor didnot operated on due date, she was pushed to false pain on 26 oct then suddenly she was operated because the heart rate of the child was increased and for 9 hours she was in false labour. She rised my son life.
Now since after the delivery there is no contact from her nor her parents. I contacted her relative in Pakistan but in vain.and I dont know what happened to my case nor my child..
Please help me I thinking my wife betrayed me and I just lost a son.. her parents did the same thing with there younger daughter, she also gave birth to a son, the son is in canada but the father is also living in Pakistan and for 3 years he also dont know what happened. He has gone in mental brake down. they had a love marriage( different religion). I was scared and i didnot contacted him because i never wanted to happen this with me.
When I used to a contact my wife she tried to press me by telling i am going to write a letter to the embassy against you. i fought, i explained to, not to do it, I trusted you and let you go. and now she vanished in thin air. She says I am a canadian, and the law will protect me…
PLEASE HELP ME I DON’T WANT TO LOSE MY SON…
IF SHE WOULD HAD DONE THIS WHY DID SHE GOT MARRIED TO ME

 

[confusednscared]

First off, I am sorry to hear that you are going through such trouble.

Second off, I am not sure this is the right forum for you to come to for help. From what I have gathered, you're a Canadian Citizen and your wife is a PR holder of Canada. I don't see any immigration barriers that could have prevented you from going with your wife back to Pakistan while she delivers your child. Also, I do not understand why as a PR of Canada, your wife wanted to deliver your child in Pakistan.

Maybe you are not the father of the child :-\ ??????

Since you are a Canadian Citizen as you have claimed, according to law and if you can prove the child is yours, he is a Canadian by descendant. I think at this stage of early childhood development, you will have to hold off and wait until he is a bit older before you can try to bring him back to Canada. Chances are you may very well need to get legal authorities involved in your case because as of now your wife will have full legal guardianship over your son and it will be up to her to sign documents for him to be under your care. The paper work process behind your family drama will be a challenging one.

My other advice is try talking to your wife and her family to find out why she/they is/are doing all this to you. there obviously has to be something in your marriage to your wife that is making her behave this way.

Good luck!

 

[Ario]

Hi asdff
Sorry to hear about your plight,but this appears to be a family matter,so it is better dealt with within the family. You know the old saying : Don't wash the dirty linen in public.So I would advise you to make peace with your wife and resolve this issue.every marriage has its ups and downs. The alternative ,which may prove more difficult I think, is to get help in the form of advice from a canadian lawyer or the Visa Office.
If you really are married to her ,you have certain rights under canadian law or any law for that matter

Good luck

 

[angelbrat]

From what I have read, you are applying for immigration via the spousal route. Your wife is a PR of Canada. Firstly, she had to return to Canada to sponsor you. As a PR, she has to be living in Canada. So, having the baby in Canada was not the only reason your wife returned here.

As for the lack of contact with your wife. There is obviously a marriage breakdown and this is not the correct forum. You need marriage counseling, not immigration.

If your wife chooses not to sponsor you to Canada, I am sorry there is nothing you can do. I am not qualified to know if you have access rights from Pakistan or if the Canadian government even recognizes you as the child's father. You need to consult a specialist lawyer, to access what your options are in this complicated situation.

 

[Ario]

Hello asdff
Yeah ,take angelbrat advice ,go for marriage counseling,talk to a specialist lawyer to look at what your options are. You may be surprised to learn there are quite a number of options left to you:
1)- As I suggested you could make peace with your wife ,try to rekindle the spark in your relationship. Try to meet her needs .think of what could make her change a mind in your favour.
2)- Seek the advice of an experienced lawyer ,ther must be other people in similar situations

3)-Last but not least ,you could immigrate to Canada on your own if you make the points (67) ,you don't have to be sponsored by anybody. and if successful ,once in Canada you would have access to your child and you would have the rights of PR holders

 

[HoneyBird]

well u do have a legal marriage.
so you can start from there.
it sounds like you already lost your wife.
but you still have rights to your son.

from what you have said, i am a bit confused.
pakistans normally dont leave their significant others like that
is it perhaps your wife got PR and did not include you in the application
and now realises that if she does, she could lose her status?

is there something else that happened that you are not aware of?
if this is the second time this has happened then the next question is
is this a normal family?
was your marriage arranged?

then other thing is...do you still want to be with your wife or just have rights for your kid?
do you want to go to Canada?

Separation or work things out.
but your wife needs to tell you about your son.
i am so sad for you.

it seems that you have no idea where she lives currently in canada and all these things you need to know.
btw are you a skilled worker? do you have family in canada? perhaps your family can send you a letter of invitation for a holiday and you can go up and find out? or if all is lost, then a divorce and then you apply if you are a skilled worker for the skilled worker program and go up.

 

[khakalove]

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[jack3]

Dear asdff,
Sounds like your wife was forced to marry you. She already had a boyfriend but her parents forced her to marry you. And 99% chance is that child is not yours. It's your wife's boyfriend's. Just file for divorce. You were a victim of a fight between a daughter and parents. If you want to get more information about your wife than you can send me a message and I'll see what I can do to help you.

 

[Leon]

I think jack might be right but whatever the reasons of the wife, nobody can force her to sponsor you for PR. If you manage to immigrate to Canada yourself, you can look for your wife and request visitation with your son and I suppose at that time if he is really not your son, she will tell you that and offer to prove it with a paternity test. Until then, while she is in Canada and you are not, there is really not much you can do.