Looking for few answers. Vancouver, BC

[PinkFloyd1]

Hi

I am new to this forum as you all can see probably. I just wanted to share very briefly about what's going on with me and i had some question and concerns that I couldn't find answers to.

I got married to a Canadian National in 2009 when she was visiting me. We were in love and all I think some of the best days when she was visiting me in my country. Anyway, around Mid 2010 or so we started working on my paper work coz I wanted to be in canada with her. Eventually after all the paper work and long wait I came to canada in Nov.2013. It's been almost a year and half. Everything was good at the beginning but her attitude towards me after a while was rude. It was a mental torture for me after a year, she use to threaten me and everything for little things. I can't go into details how she started picking on me over small things and the type of language she used was something I couldn't handle anymore.

About few months ago, I started feeling unsafe around her because all of sudden she would pick something up and hit me sometimes if she's upset, even though this happen like only a couple of times. I was scared and alone here because I barely knew anyone here. I started working almost 4 months after arriving in canada, I have been working full time since then, she was never happy, it felt like she did not want me to make friends or progress, and I was doing well at work too, my bosses, co-workers loved working with me. I'll make this short coz more and more things are coming into my head that I have been through. Anyway, I finally moved out and started to live separately almost 3 months ago. she has been sending me few texts messages on different days, saying bad words and things that i can't even share here. yesturday she sends me a message saying that she has reported me or something, I have no idea what that means or what should i be doing after this?

I know I am not doing anything illegal here but I would like to know where should i go, who should i inform? Coz I do have a PR-Card which I think I got about a month after i arrived in Canada. Even Though I was landed immigrant from what i know.

I have been trying to find numbers to call or inform the services or something, I also came across few links here and there and read about similar situations that other people are in. There's also some sort of conditional PR card, And i am not sure if that applies to me ? From what I remember Submitted my case to embassy in 2010 sometime. Any information would help here. If there are any officials here or users who have some information regarding this kind of situation, or have any numbers that I can contact. Any help will be appreciated.
Sorry I Almost forgot, I am in Vancouver, BC.
Thank you all.
Have a great night!

 

[NizNoz]

Hi,
I'm new to the forum too, but have been in BC for the past 5 years.. Can you explain what exactly she is going to 'report'? AFAIK, if you have a PR card, you are free to pursue work on your own etc, independent of a 'sponsor' etc. Perhaps contact the RCMP if you're being harassed by her. All the best.

 

[LLAngel]

Hello,

I think what she met as reporting, is that she feels you married her only to get PR. Below is more info:

http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/information/applications/guides/3900ETOC.asp

Information on Conditional Permanent Residence

As of October 25, 2012, CIC introduced amendments to the Immigration and Refugee Protection Regulations. The amendments specify that spouses, common-law or conjugal partners who are in a relationship with their sponsor for two years or less and have no children in common with their sponsor at the time of the sponsorship application are subject to a period of conditional permanent residence. The condition requires the sponsored spouse or partner to cohabit in a conjugal relationship with their sponsor for a period of two years after the day on which they became a permanent resident. The conditional measure only applies to permanent residents whose applications are received on October 25, 2012, or after the day that the amendments come into force.
Examples

Condition applies if the couple:

is married for two years or less; or
dated for four years, but is married for two years or less; or
have been in a conjugal relationship for two years or less; or
has cohabited in a common-law relationship for two years or less; and
Do not have any children in common

Condition does not apply if the couple:

is married for more than two years; or
have been in a conjugal relationship for more than two years; or
has cohabited in a common-law relationship for more than two years; or
Have children in common.

For more information, consult Information for Sponsored Spouses or Partners.

You have to check if this applies to you or not depending on when you became PR.

 

[PinkFloyd1]

Thank you. I'm not sure if I have a conditional PR. As my file was submitted way before the date mentioned and we have been married since Dec, 2009. We do not have any kids together. I think I'm gonna go to RCMP and let them know what's going on? I would still wanna know if I have conditional PR or not.



Thank you guys

 

[Lammawitch]

Your copr/pr card will have "condition 51" marked if it applies to you.

 

[jazibkg]

The RCMP will not be interested in your case because the police and authorities are by default biased against males, and will almost always side with a female in any case. So tread with caution here. Be very careful about going to the RCMP about this - as they will most probably discriminate against you. It might be a better option to contact someone in a BC social service organization instead.

My advice would be to enlist the help of a men's rights organization (I remember one being advertised on the 96-b line bus), or get a good lawyer to deal with your case - this lawyer should be well versed in both family law and immigration law. You will have to google around, or go to your library to find information about any such organizations which deal with domestic violence against men will be willing to help you. Enlist the help of non-governmental organizations because governmental organizations are very pro-women nowadays.

Maybe this will help? Try contacting them:

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-abused-men.htm

 

[PinkFloyd1]

Thanks.

But I can't seem to find any number to call. I have been trying for some days now, the numbers I found were either not active anymore or some other problem. If anyone has anylsy of numbers, please Share,
thank you everyone