Limited time with wife and limited proofs

[boldapple]

I have a difficult case and I hope anyone who has any experience can help me.
I went to Pakistan for 3 weeks with my elder brother. My brother got married first, then I got married. I haven't been to Pakistan for over 25 years and I don't know much traveling, my wife lived in a different city from me.

So at the end, my brother spent got to spend most of the time with his wife and I got only 2 days to spend with my wife. My wife does not like taking pictures, so we took only few pictures while we were together within those 2 days. Now that I am doing the immigration forms, it is very difficult to go with our limited time spent together and limited pictures after the marriage. However, we do have hundred of pages of chats during my time in Pakistan and afterward.

I am worried, that the proofs I have provided is not enough. I wedding and ceremony pictures, one outing picture, I have calls history, messages, emails between us but how can I tell immigration that I only spent 2 days with my wife, if you can give any advice, it would be most greatly appreciated. Thank You.

 

[Aquakitty]

I have a difficult case and I hope anyone who has any experience can help me.
I went to Pakistan for 3 weeks with my elder brother. My brother got married first, then I got married. I haven't been to Pakistan for over 25 years and I don't know much traveling, my wife lived in a different city from me.

So at the end, my brother spent got to spend most of the time with his wife and I got only 2 days to spend with my wife. My wife does not like taking pictures, so we took only few pictures while we were together within those 2 days. Now that I am doing the immigration forms, it is very difficult to go with our limited time spent together and limited pictures after the marriage. However, we do have hundred of pages of chats during my time in Pakistan and afterward.

I am worried, that the proofs I have provided is not enough. I wedding and ceremony pictures, one outing picture, I have calls history, messages, emails between us but how can I tell immigration that I only spent 2 days with my wife, if you can give any advice, it would be most greatly appreciated. Thank You.

This is an arranged marriage I assume? Did you go through all the culturally-appropriate ceremonies? That's what they are going to be looking for. This was my advice to someone while ago about another Pakistani arranged marriage, and they got through alright:

Since you have an arranged marriage and this is normal for your culture, you have to give the relevant information, such as describing the traditions of the marriage, when you first met your wife, if you stayed together on any nights, show the gifts that were exchanged, explain how the marriage was arranged etc. Just provide proof that your marriage followed the normal traditions for your culture and that will prevent red flags.

Is this marriage otherwise unusual in anyway?

I originally wrote that you should visit your wife more before following through with the sponsorship, which is never a bad idea, but it also depends on the circumstances of your relationship.

 

[mikeymyke]

My advice is to return to Pakistan and spend several months with her to build your relationship profile.

I can tell you right now that if you were to go through with the sponsorship, there's a very high chance it will be refused given your extremely short courtship to marriage, and limited relationship evidence.

How did you two end up getting married in Pakistan at same time? Was this arranged marriage? Have you ever met or known your wife before you came to Pakistan? Why were you chatting with your wife while in Pakistan rather than actually spending time with her in person? It would seem very strange to be chatting with your wife online when you could've just been with her in person.

I can also tell you that if your wife does not look happy, or interested in you in pictures of you together, that's also considered a big red flag.

You really need to go back to Pakistan for several months, take lots of pics together, with her family, and really get to know her better.

 

[boldapple]

Yes, it was an arranged married. My wife does not live in the same city as me. The pictures we did take, we look really good couple. We are both studying and we have a limited family there, plus I do not know much about Pakistan, I would simply get lost if I sat in the bus, also I cannot read their language but I can speak it. I won't be able to go back until at least 2 years, due to being very tight with school and work. We have 100s of pictures from wedding, some ceremonies, but only 2 days after our marriage, because she had to go back to her city to work on her thesis.

 

[Aquakitty]

Yes, it was an arranged married. My wife does not live in the same city as me. The pictures we did take, we look really good couple. We are both studying and we have a limited family there, plus I do not know much about Pakistan, I would simply get lost if I sat in the bus, also I cannot read their language but I can speak it. I won't be able to go back until at least 2 years, due to being very tight with school and work. We have 100s of pictures from wedding, some ceremonies, but only 2 days after our marriage, because she had to go back to her city to work on her thesis.

So sounds like you are both in the process of becoming highly educated, that is a big plus. Arranged marriages are often prepared long in advance. Do you have proof of this? Proof of all the cultural ceremonies?

Did you marry into the same family as your brother? That's a common ploy for immigration, to get multiple family members in to Canada.

 

[boldapple]

We married with in the family, my uncle and father set everything for me to get married. So I do not have any messages before the marriage between us but my father and uncle does but it is most likely they did not save them. Also, I am still in college, but she is doing Masters, I went back to college after working for many years. We do have proof ceremonies, where were 2, my wedding and my ceremony after wedding. It is within the family, she is not my cousin, but my father and uncle knows her mother and her father very well from long time ago.