Seriously, you first have to wait until you receive information on why the application was refused. If it was that they suspect that yours is not a "bonafide" relationship - and you can provide additional information in support of the relationship - you can reapply, or submit that information as part of the appeal process and benefit from humanitarian and compassionate discretion. Officers processing an application through the embassy do not have H&C discretion - you can only get that through appeal.
Yes, it's a long wait - but you have to measure how long a wait for processing of a new application as opposed to the wait for an ADR hearing, which is normally how they deal with appeals for non-genuine relationships. If you can convince them at ADR, with your proofs, that your relationship is genuine, your appeal can be allowed and then you move forward with a reprocessing and they cannot refuse for the same reason again. If you take your chances and simply reapply through the same embassy, they can refuse again on "non-genuine" grounds.